The Do’s And Don’ts Of Warming Up: What Women Need You To Know About Foreplay

Men, if you haven’t figured this out by now: Foreplay is important.  Women’s sexuality is far more of a marathon compared to your sprint and if you don’t lace up and stretch, you’re bound to pull a hammy.  Information about foreplay is everywhere.  You’ve got your Doctors Ruth’s and Phil’s putting in their two cents but the best resource if you’re looking for the do’s and don’ts: Women! Duh.  We spoke to women from across the globe in different walks of life and professions to find out the do’s and don’ts of warming up: What women need you to know about foreplay.

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Both. Sarah is an actress in California who feels strongly about one particular method. “Don’t just use your fingers and don’t just use your tongue. The combination of the two is the most effective and should always be used. Period.”

Nails. Annie is a temp from Georgia who says, “I know that foreplay is usually going to start with his hand. That’s fine, but if he doesn’t trim his nails, then the whole thing is ruined. Clip those nails. Heck, get a manicure while you’re at it. Couldn’t hurt."

Beard. Beth is a DJ from Illinois who writes, “I like the feeling of his stubble most of the time, but there’s an exception. When he’s going down on me, he needs to shave. In fact, a beard is okay if he’s going to do that because it’s softer. Stubble is too rough and after a while it causes irritation or a rash.”

Body Hair. Molly is a fashion designer for New York City who’s tired of manscaping. “Guys, stop shaving or waxing your body hair. First of all, whatever you have going on is what’s supposed to be there. Second of all, feeling that stubble on your stomach and chest is the biggest turn off. I like twirling a guy’s chest hair after sex. Leave it alone.”

Jackhammer. Mary is a New York City DJ who likes to make the club bump, but hates this particular type of bump and grind. “No Jack Hammering! What good is having an orgasm if I’m going to go to sleep sore and with a headache?” Jack hammering is a no-no, even if she’s Jack and Daniels hammered.

Push. Sometimes guys take their sexual cues from adult film and that can be a mistake. Ally is a artisan soap maker from Portland: “Don’t push my head. I hate that so much. Next guy that pushes my head I will deck in the face. I can and will push your head though if I feel like it. Just saying."

Snap shot. Missy may be okay with a mental snap shot, but Allison from New Hampshire hates when guys try to take a real one. “Guys think they’re so slick when they pop out the iPhone and try to pretend they are not trying to film you. That’s the worst and it ruins the moment. It’ s a good way to guarantee I don’t call you again.”

Straight to the v. Christine is a animal trainer for Hollywood movies who feels strongly about the ABC’s. “Don’t you boys know your ABC’s? You need to start with a little something something before you move onto the big show. What i’m trying to say is don’t skip your ABC’s and go straight to the V.”

There’s two! Ariel works in a bakery in Delaware and she hates when guys forget about breast number 2. “Guys, there’s two breasts. Somehow, they always become obsessed with one and leave the other one just sitting there. Multitask!”

Evil eye. Missy works for a PR company in North Carolina and she hates one particular habit during foreplay. “Never, ever, ever stare at me while you’re going down on me. It creeps me out. The same goes for when I’m going down on you. If you want to take a mental snapshot, fine.”

Reciprocate. Regina works in a recording studio in Texas. She is tired of the double standard when it comes to going downtown. “I don’t know but guys think when you down on them that there’s no need to return the favor. Unless otherwise stated, always return the favor. Shouldn’t that be obvious?”

Moan. Daniella is a blogger in New Jersey who likes to hear a little reaction from her men. “I find it hot when a guy moans a little if he likes what I’m doing. I mean, we are expected to moan but guys think they’re not supposed to or something. Moaning is good."

Not too much. However, Jess, a waitress in New York, doesn’t entirely agree. “I hate when guys like freakout during sex and groan to the point where it sounds like a tennis match. A little noise is cool but otherwise it sounds like you’re going to the bathroom or something.”

Thrust. Charlene has a major pet peeve when it comes to foreplay. “If I’m going down on a guy and he starts thrusting like we’re having sex, that’s not cool and guys do it all the time. I’m in control of this job, don’t thrust!”