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User “jesusyouguys.” "When you get home, you find yourself sitting in your car, just taking a few extra minutes and some deep breaths before you go inside. Unless you have kids; if you have kids this is totally normal.”
User “philip-che.” "When you miss the memories more than your partner.”
User “mani_mani.” "From personal experience I would have to say when I find that I am unable to relax around my current partner. If I feel on edge because I'm nervous that we are going to get into an argument or I have to be on my best behavior to make you want to hang out with me then we are headed for a break up. I broke up with my last ex when I realized that my hands were shaking once I got in my car after hanging out.”
User “PlinyPompei.” "When spending time together feels like a chore, not a pleasant afternoon. Edit: Some time apart is normal and healthy. I'm specifically talking about a sense of dread that wasn't present beforehand.”
User “Hii6212.” "You hesitate to make future plans with them.”
User “Mrthereverend.” "They're very similar for the signs that you're heading for a layoff. Secret meetings that you're not invited to. Excessive recriminations for minor infractions. Making sure that somebody else can take care of all of your official duties.”
User “MissSara24.” "when you're spying on someone because you think they are cheating.”
User “Helpfuljap.” "When your SO goes out of their way to find differences between the two of you. This can be a subtle one, but I have noticed it in almost every breakup I've had. For example, you watch a movie and you think your SO might like it, so you say "Hey, check out X, it's your sort of movie". When things are going well they might say 'Oh, ok’ but just before the breakup they are looking to put psychological distance between you, so it ends up turning into 'Oh, that's really not the kind of movie I like.’”
User “ZacBank.” "When you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, eventually there is too much water under the bridge and things fold for good… 'Breaking up is like knocking over a coke machine, you can't do it in one push. You gotta rock it back and forth a few times and then it goes over.' - Seinfeld."
User “Royq.” "A lack of enthusiasm in communication is a big red flag. Sometimes the other person has more important things going on and can't spare as much of their time and energy to communication as normally, and that's fine. But when they ignore you for an longer period of time, it starts to be a problem.”
User “depthandbloom.” "Joint Facebook accounts. We all know one."
User “thescott2k.” "Your phone rings, it's her, and you don't want to answer.”
User “Thefatguyfromnewyork.” "When you aren't on the same page with what you want out of the relationship."
User “Emeow56.” "I was creeping her pinterest looking for inspiration for a gift when I saw that her most recent pin (?) were some foreboding Mumford and Sons lyrics. Thought to myself 'uh oh.’"
User “don_tmind_me.” "It's taken me three tries to figure this out.
The moment it's over is the moment I say to myself, in my head, 'this thing may bother me now, but fighting about it isn't worth it because at some point in the future, I will be free of this'. Then I just wait like a year or two for an opportune time and end it. Working on reducing that waiting period."
User “jesusyouguys.” "When you get home, you find yourself sitting in your car, just taking a few extra minutes and some deep breaths before you go inside. Unless you have kids; if you have kids this is totally normal.”
User “philip-che.” "When you miss the memories more than your partner.”
User “mani_mani.” "From personal experience I would have to say when I find that I am unable to relax around my current partner. If I feel on edge because I'm nervous that we are going to get into an argument or I have to be on my best behavior to make you want to hang out with me then we are headed for a break up. I broke up with my last ex when I realized that my hands were shaking once I got in my car after hanging out.”
User “PlinyPompei.” "When spending time together feels like a chore, not a pleasant afternoon. Edit: Some time apart is normal and healthy. I'm specifically talking about a sense of dread that wasn't present beforehand.”
User “Hii6212.” "You hesitate to make future plans with them.”
User “Mrthereverend.” "They're very similar for the signs that you're heading for a layoff. Secret meetings that you're not invited to. Excessive recriminations for minor infractions. Making sure that somebody else can take care of all of your official duties.”
User “MissSara24.” "when you're spying on someone because you think they are cheating.”
User “Helpfuljap.” "When your SO goes out of their way to find differences between the two of you. This can be a subtle one, but I have noticed it in almost every breakup I've had. For example, you watch a movie and you think your SO might like it, so you say "Hey, check out X, it's your sort of movie". When things are going well they might say 'Oh, ok’ but just before the breakup they are looking to put psychological distance between you, so it ends up turning into 'Oh, that's really not the kind of movie I like.’”
User “ZacBank.” "When you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, eventually there is too much water under the bridge and things fold for good… 'Breaking up is like knocking over a coke machine, you can't do it in one push. You gotta rock it back and forth a few times and then it goes over.' - Seinfeld."
User “Royq.” "A lack of enthusiasm in communication is a big red flag. Sometimes the other person has more important things going on and can't spare as much of their time and energy to communication as normally, and that's fine. But when they ignore you for an longer period of time, it starts to be a problem.”
User “depthandbloom.” "Joint Facebook accounts. We all know one."
User “thescott2k.” "Your phone rings, it's her, and you don't want to answer.”
User “Thefatguyfromnewyork.” "When you aren't on the same page with what you want out of the relationship."
User “Emeow56.” "I was creeping her pinterest looking for inspiration for a gift when I saw that her most recent pin (?) were some foreboding Mumford and Sons lyrics. Thought to myself 'uh oh.’"
User “don_tmind_me.” "It's taken me three tries to figure this out.
The moment it's over is the moment I say to myself, in my head, 'this thing may bother me now, but fighting about it isn't worth it because at some point in the future, I will be free of this'. Then I just wait like a year or two for an opportune time and end it. Working on reducing that waiting period."
The moment it's over is the moment I say to myself, in my head, 'this thing may bother me now, but fighting about it isn't worth it because at some point in the future, I will be free of this'. Then I just wait like a year or two for an opportune time and end it. Working on reducing that waiting period."
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