How To Reach The Holy Grail Of Climaxes: The Shared Orgasm

Everyone on this planet wants to have the greatest sex life imaginable.  It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, sex feels good, so you enjoy it when it happens.  Doesn't get more obvious than that.  However, there is one goal that couples have in mind that isn't very easy to reach: the shared orgasm.  Couples do their best to pleasure each other in such a way that this wonderful goal is reached.  However, everything is easier said than done.  Keep reading to find out how to reach the holy grail of climaxes: the shared orgasm.

Orgasming together! Orgasming at the same time as your partner isn’t exactly an easy feat, and the reason why is fairly obvious. You’ve got two bodies trying to mirror a physical reaction to sexual stimulation that typically shows up at random. As it turns out, however, doing this isn’t completely impossible, according to the Mirror.

How rare is it? So, even though a shared orgasm may seem rare, it’s actually not. In fact, if you’ve never been able to achieve one, or if it’s just really difficult for you, then you actually belong in a smaller percentage of couples who can pull this off. The shared orgasm really isn’t as difficult as it may seem.

Studying sex. It turns out that reaching an orgasm at the same time as your partner is relatively common. It’s all about your bodies being synced up emotionally, while you’re being physical. Your passions and feelings start to bounce off one of each other’s passions and feelings, and voila — you’re busting your respective nuts at the same time, so to speak.

A high percentage. As difficult as you may think it seems, it turns out that 89 percent of couples can actually pull this. Or, at the very least, they’ve figured out how to do it on occasion. For all we know, they came together at the same time by accident, and now consider themselves high rollers.

Half the time. Depending on how you look at it, a shared orgasm can feel sort of like a prize. For some couples, it’s a prize you get only half the time. According to the study, about 37 percent of the people participating in the study, have had shared orgasms at least half the time. So, about four in ten couples.

Getting there. If you want to achieve a shared orgasm, then you really need to be on the same page as your partner, and there can’t be any screwing around. For some people, simply enjoy their partner is enough to make it work, but for others, it may require some specific concentration. Otherwise, it may not work.

How to do it. According to sex expert Jess Wilde from Lovehoney, both genders are different in terms of how they can reach the shared orgasm, so we’ve got to all be on the same page for this to happen. Wilde is thrilled that so many couples can pull this off, saying that “It is fantastic news that almost 90 per cent of couples have achieved a shared orgasms at some point in their relationship.”

A healthy pelvis. For women, Wilde says, “For women, the key to orgasming easily is to have a strong and healthy pelvic floor, and there are simple exercises they can do to strengthen the muscles in this area.” It’s all about getting control of your body and being on the same page with it, in a way.

For men. For the fellas, it’s a little different. They need to worry about making sure the female partner is up to speed with them. She said, “Men can play their part during intercourse by making sure they hit exactly the right spot to stimulate the G-Spot during penetration - this is at 27-degrees and sex pillows can help to get you both into the optimum pose for pleasure.”

Vital for fun and intimacy. Even though not everyone necessarily wants this kind of orgasm, Wilde says it’s a great goal to set for couples. She says, “For around half of couples this is the absolute peak of sexual happiness, so we are always looking at ways to help them share orgasms together with greater consistency.”

The significance of the shared orgasm. For some people, however, the orgasm hardly even matters They have sex for more than the finish line. However, men tend to care a bit more about orgasming. 57 percent of men enjoy the shared orgasm more than anything else in life, but that changes as you grow.

Women orgasming. For women, interest in the shared orgasm is a bit different. Compared to the 57 percent of men, only 46 percent of women actually even care if they’ll climax at the same time as their significant other. There’s no scientific reason for why this is. Just happens to be that way.

Orgasming at all. It’s one thing to have a style of orgasming you want, but when you have a hard time orgasming in general, it’s frustrating adding more unnecessary stress. 61 percent of women have trouble just reaching an orgasm alone.

Putting in the effort. As you see, simply putting in the effort and taking your partner into account can do wonders when you’re trying to orgasm at the same time. There may not be a perfect science to it, but there are definitely ways to wrap your head around, to achieve some mental syncing with your S.O.

The incredible journey. For a lot of couples, orgasming at the same time can feel close to impossible — if not completely impossible. But the fact that there is hope out there should signal some relief. Sure, it’s not super easy to figure out, but it’s possible, and that’s all that matters.