Stealthing: Man Explains Why He Takes Off His Condom During Sex

In "people who should not be having sex" news, an Australian guy named Brendan recently sat down for an interview with Hack where he explained why he enjoys stealthing, which is when a guy takes off his condom mid-sex and then continues without any protection.  Brendan essentially says that it feels better to have sex without a condom on, which is how he justifies doing it without his partner's knowledge or consent.  He also states that he would politely put the condom back on at his partner's request, but since no one ever says anything, it doesn't come up. Wow.  A compelling argument, Brendan.
What do you think of this attitude? Let us know in the comments!

Stealthing is never okay. Stealthing is considered sexual assault for a reason. It's not a cool thing to do to another person. It's a complete violation.

Tricking another person. Why exactly would you put on a condom in the first place? The only reason you would ever put on a condom and then take it off during sex is to deceive your partner.

Diseases and pregnancy. Brendan stated that he gets more concerned about pregnancy than contracting a sexually transmitted disease. We wonder how his partners feel, since Brendan took the decision of whether or not they wanted to engage in unprotected sex away from them.

A cowardly thing to do. Stealthing is not a cool thing to do, no matter how you try and look at it. It's dishonest and cowardly. It's not something than an honorable man would ever do.

A problem among men and women. Of course, women aren't the only victims of stealthing. Unfortunately, gay men do it to other men as well.

Call it what it is. Using the term "stealthing" is a way of normalizing a disgusting, sexually violent act. It's a very casual term for committing a serious, major violation.

Legislation. Legislators are working to change the definition of sexual assault to include removing a condom during sex. A man in Switzerland was convicted of sexual assault last year for doing exactly that.

Underreported. As with all sexual assault, stealthing is underreported. Many victims don't want to go through the pain and embarrassment of pressing charges.

More and more people are speaking out. More and more people are sharing their experiences with being the victims of stealthing. It's a disturbing trend that should never have been a trend in the first place. It's never been okay in the past, and it certainly isn't okay now.

Making a joke out of it. If you do a quick Google search, you will find tons of memes that make light of stealthing. This is another example of rape culture; normalizing completely unacceptable behavior.

Tricking your partner. So, for the men like Brendan out there, to be clear, preferring the feeling of unprotected sex does not justify stealthing. If a woman does not complain because she's completely unaware that you removed the condom, that's not the same thing as giving consent.

Deceiving your partner. If your partner agrees to willingly have consensual unprotected sex with you, fine. If you're tricking your partner into it, you have a serious problem.

To be clear. Just to be clear, stealthing is never okay. If you do it, you can and should wind up in jail.

Making a stupid and selfish decision. New infections of HIV are on the rise because of people like Brendan. We don't wish an STD upon him, but we do want him to understand the ramifications of his actions.

Do not victim blame. Lastly, we shouldn't have to point this out, but there is a certain degree of victim blaming associated with stealthing. So, to spell it out plainly, if a person consents to having sex with you, that doesn't imply unprotected sex. If you put a condom on and know damn well that your partner thinks you kept it on, don't you dare take it off. If you do, you're committing sexual assault, period. If you think that because unprotected sex feels better, that makes it okay, then you are too immature and selfish to be having sex in the first place, quite frankly.