Sex’s Most Underrated Pleasures

If you ask someone what their favorite part about sex is, it's probably sex. They're probably not going to dive too deep into the well of details to pick something specific. It's sex. It's fun all on its own. But there's really so much to sex that doesn't get the attention it deserves. There are underrated pleasures that may not seem obvious, but once you give them some thought, you realize that sex wouldn't be quite what it is without them. That's life, after all. The best parts are usually the smaller moments. Keep reading to find out more about sex's most underrated pleasures.

His scruff against your cheek. Even though it kind of feels like sandpaper (and definitely doesn’t feel good on “other” parts of the body), there’s something about scruff rubbing against the cheek. Maybe it’s because it’s so representative of masculinity? Whatever. Doesn’t matter why. It’s just perfect.

When he grazes your inner thighs. Sex feels great, without question, but it’s the anticipation that really works the most magic. When he’s teasing your inner thighs, just inches away from where he’s about to put himself inside of you… It’s unreal.

Whispering in your ear. It’s not just the fact that he’s whispering that’s so amazing. It’s the slight tickle you feel. It’s what he’s saying. More often than not, he’s preparing you for what the two of you are about to indulge in, and it doesn’t get as much attention as it deserves.

What Men Fear The Most During Sex

If there’s anything that modern dating has shown women, it’s that most men have very fragile egos and tend to be a lot more scared than they’ll want to admit. This means that guys are a lot more worried about what goes on in the bedroom than they care to admit. Ever wonder what the worst thing a guy fears is? We did too - and that’s why we decided to ask a panel of men about the thing that worries them most during sex. Here’s what they said…What fears of yours pop into your head during sex? Let us know in the comments section below.

Troy Said… “The last thing I ever want to hear with a girl is that she thinks my junk is small. If I hear that, it’s game over.”

Allan Said… “It’s hearing that my package isn’t big enough. Or worse, her asking if it’s in yet.”

David Said… “My biggest fear is that she’s not pleased with me…or into me.”

Eric Said… “If you want to ask the unlikely thing I worry about, it’s my fear of breaking my penis. Once I heard that was possible, sex got a bit risky-sounding. Weird, huh?”

Paul Said… “Honestly, it’s having a girl laugh at me during sex. I can’t stand the idea that she’d be ready to go, then look at me, laugh, and walk back out.”

Jose Said… “Hearing the wrong name called. It’s happened before, and it took a while for me to get over it.”

Luis Said… “I just fear I’m not performing well enough in bed. Like, I know girls talk and that it gets around. If she’s not happy, I might end up being single for a long time…or something. I don’t know, it just worries me.”

Arin Said… “I have had performance anxiety a lot, and my worst fear is being unable to get it up for a new girl and her thinking that there’s something wrong with me.”

Ihre Said… “My ex instilled a fear of being humiliated in bed into me. I’m not going to get into details, but let’s just say that my confidence took a huge hit.”

Todd Said… “One word: pregnancy.” (Several guys later changed their answers when they heard this one.)

Andrew Said… “I had an ex who faked it, then later told everyone I sucked in bed. I always fear that happening again. It was not fun for me.”

Michael Said… “I’m definitely most scared of pregnancy…or of having her say I sexually assaulted her when I didn’t. It happened to a friend of mine and I’m scared as heck of it.”

Jai Said… “I worry that I won’t measure up. It’s just that simple. My looks, I can change. My abs, I can change. Little Jai? He’s gonna be that size for the rest of my life.”

Ash Said… “My biggest fear has got to deal with being able to last long enough for her to like it.”

Damian Said… “Size. I worry my size isn’t big enough, even though I know I’m above average.”

Study Reveals Having Sex Makes You Look Younger

It's no secret that sex has many benefits. For instance, it helps reduce the risk of clinical depression, and can also help you improve your relationship. Not to mention, if you’re very active during sex, it can also help you lose weight. (After all, it’s a really good aerobic exercise.) Now, a study is showing that regular sex can shave years off of your face. Intrigued? Here’s what you need to know.

Sex is, overall, a very healthy activity. It produces love hormones, gives you that nice sex glow, and makes you feel awesome. It also validates your attractiveness on a subconscious level. There's a reason why sex makes you feel good.

And, multiple studies have been done showing how it can make you look younger. The most famous study, published by Dr. David Weeks, showed that regular sex makes both men and women look 5 to 7 years younger than they really are. The study finished in 2013, and was conducted over the course of 10 years.

Weeks had asked people between the ages of 40 to 50 about their sex lives. Basically, he quizzed them on frequency, and then he took pictures of the people who responded to the quizzing. And, he also asked them about how much they enjoyed the sex they have.

What he had found is that the people who had regular sex and enjoyed it tended to look way younger. People who had sex 50 percent more frequently and enjoyed it looked on average 5 to 7 years younger than people who only had sex once or twice per week. They also found that the quality of sex mattered. In order to get the full benefits, you do have to enjoy the sex.

Here’s what else he found through his research. Weeks also noted that a previous heart disease study showed that people who had highly orgasmic sex were half as likely to die from a heart attack as those who just had “blah” sex. In other words, good sex helps in the prevention of heart disease.

Here’s the main reason why sex is so awesome for your youth. Sex encourages the production of human growth hormone, or HGH. Human growth hormone is a crucial compound when it comes to retaining skin elasticity and improving overall skin tone. The way sex gets your blood pumping also gives you a temporary “glow.”

And sex also improves your overall life quality, which in turn can reduce stress - which in turn, reduces aging. A great sex life ranked as highly as a strong religious foundation and a good role in the community when it comes to life quality. In 1999, Dr. Weeks found that regular sex came in only second to physical and mental activity as a factor of retaining youth.

But, there’s another major catch to the stress relief issue, too. It’s only committed sex that seems to really boost youthful looks in people. Casual sex often brings out a lot of detrimental things like an absence of security, anxiety, and overall drama. Believe it or not, anxiety can cause wrinkles and aging.

Dr. Weeks also found out that there are extra ways to boost the reverse-aging benefits of a good sex life, too. He noted that people who ate healthy food in reasonable portions tended to get better youth perks than those who didn’t. On a similar note, people who exercised frequently also tended to benefit from sex more often.

Dr. Weeks’s studies are not the only ones. There have been a multitude of studies on the benefits of sex over the years. Some of them are still being done today, and almost all of them agree that having sex is better than having no sex at all.

Dr. Amy Wechsler showed that regular sex can give you a real glow, too. And, it’s not just because your blood is pumping, either. With women, having sex can boost your estrogen levels, which in turn prevents skin dryness. This hormone boost also tends to improve your overall complexion, even days after you’ve done the deed.

AcnEase did a study on sex and acne. And, surprise, sex is a major hormone balancer. Since a lot of acne is caused by hormone imbalances, it shouldn’t be too shocking that people who get laid frequently tend to have clearer skin. It also increases immunoglobin, an antibody that prevents inflammation, and decreases our need for sweet foods.

Another study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine says that sex also boosts testosterone in men. As most people know, testosterone is crucial to a man’s ability to function healthily. It boosts guys’s moods, improves their muscle tone, and also can help them live longer, healthier lives.

Even having a significant other reduces anxiety levels. So, if you have love, congratulations. You are already on a better road to a more youthful self than a person who is single. And, if you’re having frequent sex, that’s all the better.

The bottom line is that sex is good for you. And it’s good for you for a variety of reasons, most of which will make you look better and sexier in the long run. So go ahead and have fun. You’ll be healthier for it.

Being Loud During Sex Is Good For Your Relationship, Study Finds

Depending on your living situation, you might not always get to be as loud as you would like to be during sex.  You may have roommates or you might even live with your parents (awkward). However, you might want to consider amping up the volume anyway.  According to Dr. Ian Kerner, psychotherapist and author of the best-selling book , being loud during sex can make for a happier, healthier relationship. Why? Because your habits in the bedroom can influence your habits outside the bedroom, and one important factor in any relationship is communication.  Read on below.

Communication. General communication is key for couples, but communication in the bedroom is also important. That's why being loud during sex is a good thing! Letting your partner know that you're enjoying the experience will make you both enjoy it more.

Turn-on. It's a turn-on for guys when you show how much pleasure he's giving you. It's also a turn-on for women to be able to be as expressive about their sexuality as they can be. The bedroom isn't a place you want to hold back, so don't!

Carefree. When you don't have to worry about volume control, all you have to focus on is the pleasure of the act itself. Being loud is a way of letting yourself go and letting loose. The last thing you want to be when you're having sex is stressed.

Senses. Touch is just one of the five senses. Touching is obviously a huge factor during sex, but sound is important, too. Just like an awkward sound can kill the sexy vibe, a sexy sound can make it that much better.

Happy. Being expressive and happier in the bedroom can make you more expressive and happier outside the bedroom, too. That passion doesn't just stay hidden between the sheets. If you feel comfortable enough to be loud during sex with your partner, that comfort will translate into everyday life.

Quiet. Loud sex is fun and awesome, but that doesn't mean that if she's quiet she's not enjoying it. Of course, that might be a possibility, but she might just be quiet because she's focusing so much on the pleasure that she can't speak.

Public health. Back in March, the Swedish Health Minister Gabriel Wikstrom replied to a complaint that a citizen tweeted about his neighbors' loud sex night. Instead of commiserating with the tweeter, Wikstrom said, "Sounds nice for them, I think. Good for their wellbeing and thus public health as well."

Not so good. Being vocal during sex is also a good way of letting your partner know if something doesn't feel so great. If a move he's trying isn't working for you, or even hurts, you've got to let him know.

Terminology. There is actually a psychological term for being loud during sex. It's called "copulatory vocalization" and it's all about being sexually communicative. Science wants you to be loud, folks!

Faking it. Remember, while being loud can be the ultimate compliment, sometimes it can be disingenuous. If she's being uncharacteristically loud, she probably isn't being sincere about her orgasm.

Orgasm. Not only will being loud be a turn-on, but it will probably help your partner orgasm, too. Yup, it's that enjoyable that it helps him climax. When it comes down to it, he wants to know he can please you.

Time's up. Sometimes women use their volume as a way to let their partner know that they're ready for him to finish. If you've been at it for a while and things are escalating, she might be getting louder because she's trying to tell you it's OK for you to finish, so to speak.

Trust. If you feel comfortable enough to be as loud as you can be with your partner, it probably means that you trust each other. That trust is necessary to have in and out of the bedroom, and will only make your relationship better.

Teaching. Use your volume as a way of teaching your partner what you like. When he does something right, turn up the volume so he knows and will hopefully do more of it in the future. If he's doing something that you don't really care for, turn the volume down. Hopefully he'll get the hint.

Active. Being loud is a way for the woman to be active during sex even if she's not doing most of the heavy lifting. Your decibel level shows your level of participation and interest as much as it does your level of pleasure.

Forget A Man! This Revolutionary Sex Toy Replicates The Feeling Of Several Tongues

Your traditional vibrator just got knocked out of the ring by this new competitor. The Sqweel, a sex toy which is made of a wheel of imitation tongues, is rocking the sex world right now. It's supposed to simulate the feeling of several tongues going to work on you at once, which is truly a game changer. Everyone loves oral, but this takes it to the next level. The man who invented it says the idea simply came to him in a dream – a dream that ended up making him over $300,000. If that's what dreams can do, let's all go to sleep right now. After we try this thing out, of course.

The inventor. This is the man you can thank for inventing the revolutionary new sex toy. (No, seriously, women actually send him thank you messages all the time.) His name is Trevor Murphy and he's the one who came up with the idea and original drawing for the Sqweel sex toy. And guess what? He didn't even try.

Where the idea came from. Murphy apparently came up with the idea – or rather, the idea came to him – just as he was falling asleep one night. Instead of letting himself slumber, he jotted down his idea for later use. Sure enough, it ended up being one of if not the smartest move he's ever made.

All the tongues! The basic idea of the Sqweel is to create the sensation of several tongues pleasuring you. Murphy designed it so that these little imitation tongues would be placed on a rotating wheel. Think of a watermill, but much softer and happier.

He entered it into a contest. The sex shop LoveHoney was hosting a contest. Murphy decided to enter his new sex toy idea and sure enough, it took first prize. The company fell in love with it and so, too, did women everywhere. The product proved to be an instant success.

Bring on the money. When we say the Sqweel was a success, we do mean in every way possible. The inventor has made over $300,000 in royalties from the product so far. Not bad for one night's sleep! If only we all could have these ideas visit us in the night.

The future of sex toys? Just by taking a look at the Sqweel, you know there's never been anything like it before. "Revolutionary" isn't a word to throw around casually, so when we say it, we mean it. Murphy's new conception of what a sex toy should be able to do may be the start to a whole new future of pleasure.

How it works. OK, so how does this thing actually work? Since the original design won the competition, it has been revamped and redesigned for even more pleasure and ease of use. You press a button and it starts spinning and vibrating and you have various speeds and settings to choose from.

Features. The newest version of the Sqweel features a silicone wheel with 10 lapping tongues. It can go in reverse in three different speeds, has a "flicker" mode, and even has 30% more power than the original design. Basically, there's no reason not to give this toy a try.

Why you should use it. Let's be real for a second: Men aren't always great at giving oral. It's sad, but it's true. Some men can learn to be great at it, but you know your clitoris and your vagina best. Now you have an oral sex toy to help you do the job yourself.

Where you can get it. You can buy the product in a handful of places. Adam & Eve, LoveHoney, Good Vibrations, and Pleasure Chest are just a few of the shops that sell it. The best part? It's not that pricey. $40 and you're on your way to bliss.

Sqweel Go! Not only do they sell a regular version of the Sqweel, but they sell a pocket-sized version, too. It's called the Sqweel Go! It fits in the palm of your hand and it's easily concealable so you can pretty much take it anywhere. Where you use it, that's up to you...

Take your pleasure on the road. Going on vacation and need to pack light? Take the Sqweel Go! with you. Packing for college? We won't tell mom and dad, we promise. Just do us all a favor and use good judgement on place and time of use.

What women are saying about it. Women who have reviewed the product have been astounded at how natural and human-like the tongues of the Sqweel actually feel. The latest version of the product is much quieter than the original, too, so you don't have to worry about waking your roommates. For best results, make sure you use plenty of lube!

Crowdpleaser. Some say it even works better as a partner toy than a solo toy. After you've spent some time with it on your own, suggest it to your partner and see if they'd be cool with bringing it into the bedroom. It might amp up the heat!

There is a male version. Since the sex toy had so much success amongst women, the company decided to take it a step further and designed one for men, too! Guys can now receive oral pleasure from a sex toy. It's the same basic design, just turned inside out.