Is BDSM Healthy? And if So, How Healthy Is it? Here’s the Incredible Answer…
You know kink can fan the flames of your relationship. But did you know it’s good for a lot of other things, too?
In fact, throwing a little kink into your life will enhance your overall sense of well-being — in more ways than one.
Don’t believe me?
Today, I’m going to show you the studies that prove kinky sex and BDSM is actually good for you…
And how you can use it in your own bedroom to reap the long-lasting, surprising rewards.
Here are 5 of the most established, long-lasting benefits of having kinky sex:
1) It Increases Creativity
A study from last year reports that folks who practice kink — especially doms, or tops — experience “flow” more often than the average Joe.
And more flow means better focus and greater creativity. But what exactly is “flow”?
Flow is a psychological concept developed by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a professor at Claremont Graduate University.
In an interview with Wired magazine, Csikszentmihalyi said flow is:
A finely tuned sense of rhythm… anticipation… a state of intense emotional involvement and timelessness that comes from immersive and challenging activities.”
Kink, as it happens, was “immersive and challenging” enough to trigger flow in research subjects.
For an activity to be flow-friendly, it must have certain rules or parameters, which are crucial in BDSM play.
With its rules, time limits, roles, safe words, etc., BDSM is a flow-generating activity, especially for doms/tops.
According to Csikszentmihalyi:
The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one…. Your whole being is involved.”
Teresa Amiable, a Harvard researcher, says that experiencing a flow state on one day boosts levels of focus and creativity the following day.
According to a Psychology Today article about Amiable’s work:
Flow doesn’t just heighten creativity in the moment, it heightens it over the long haul. In other words, being in flow actually trains us to be more creative.”
Get kinky, get focused, and get creative. Which brings me to the next long-term benefit…
2) It Improves Your Communication Skills
If you’ve been following along at home, I’ve written a few of these kink articles lately, and in every one, I pounded the communication drum pretty loudly.
Guess what, though? All that communicating paid off!
For a kinky relationship to take off, you have to be transparent and communicate.
If you don’t, especially in some BDSM scenarios, things will work out poorly.
Talking with a partner about extremely personal wants and desires, while interacting to set out clear parameters, rules, or safe words is communication on a deep level.
When you practice kink, you become a better communicator with both your partner(s) and in life.
3) It Makes Your Relationships More Satisfying
Several studies have shown that long-term couples who occasionally get kinky — even older couples (50s+) — get along better with each other.
They are also more likely to be satisfied with their sex lives than couples that don’t mix it up in the bedroom.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to strap on the leather and polish your handcuffs every night.
Adding a little surprise to your routine, though, keeps both of you interested, engaged, and sexually satisfied.
In addition to sexual satisfaction, kinky couples usually enjoy greater levels of intimacy than their vanilla counterparts.
Some of it is due to the risks — both emotional and physical — that kink involves.
Heightened communication and getting to know one another on a deeper level, though, are the main factors that lead to increased feelings of intimacy.
After all, you’ve got to feel pretty comfortable with someone before you let her handcuff you to the bed, right?
These greater levels of satisfaction, intimacy, and communication, not surprisingly, also prevent cheating.
The trust that’s necessary within a kinky relationship strengthens the bonds between partners.
4) It Increases Your Overall Well-Being
A 2013 study linked kink to a better overall sense of well-being. In the study, kinky subjects were found to be less neurotic, more secure, and more open than vanilla subjects.
Much of this can be attributed to a combination of the trust that kink builds, and the neurotransmitters that kink releases.
Having kinky sex on the regular helps to build a general sense of tranquility, confidence, and motivation.
On top of that, a 2009 study linked kinky practices with lower cortisol levels. Cortisol is often called the “stress hormone.”
Guys who practice kink, even if they’re subs/bottoms, are less stressed and report less anxiety than vanilla dudes.
The reduced anxiety is likely a combination of the serotonin/dopamine release and coming down from the intensity of the peak kinky experience.
Plus, the lack of judgment and expectation inherent in kink also contributes to lower stress.
Research from 2014 suggests that engaging in S&M changes blood flow to the brain, causing a state of consciousness like those experienced by people who do yoga (similar to a runner’s high).
This lowers sensations of pain, and increases feelings of tranquility.
So, if you’re harboring some kinky fantasies, the reasons for exploring them far outweigh any reason to resist.
Talk to a partner. If you like it, make sure it’s more than an “experiment.”
The benefits of routine kink are many. Kink can enhance your sex life, build your relationship, and make you a happier, healthier, more creative guy.
5) It Makes Your Orgasms More Intense (& Hers Too)
It’s true — having kinky sex can make your orgasms feel way, way, WAY better.
Why?
It’s science, baby!
When you’re inside her, you can use this simple, easy-to-repeat technique, discovered by a tantric sex master… it targets her “Orgasmic Pleasure Center”… which is a walnut-sized area juuuuust left of her G-spot…
And usually, after a few minutes… it builds up into a very X-rated release, for both you and the woman you’re with…
(Which means she’ll beg you for round two in no time flat). 
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