Majority Of Women Fake Orgasms To End Sex, Says Survey

Sigh.
In this day and age where sex is being talked about more openly in the media than ever before, ladies are having orgasms all the time with their guys, right? According to Cosmopolitan's survey: not really.
The survey included 2,300 women between the ages 18-40, and had them answer questions about their own orgasm. A high 72 percent said their partner has reached an orgasm, but didn't even try to return the favor. (Um, selfish.) The survey showed that there is an even bigger imbalance with women saying that their male partners reach climax 95 percent of the time.
The results also showed that the art of faking it isn't going anywhere. A whopping 67 percent of women admitted to faking it with their partners. Then there was 27 percent of women who said they faked it to "end sex more quickly" feeling like the attempt to reach an orgasm was impossible. Then there was the 28 percent who said they faked it in order to protect their partner's ego.


Of course, a big culprit of the imbalance of orgasm between partners is that men don't really understand the important of clitoral stimulation. Sadly, they still think a woman's pleasure is all about penetration. A good 38 percent of women said they're just not getting enough clitoral stimulation to go over the edge, and 35 percent said their partners aren't giving the right kind of stimulation.
But there is some good news: 78 percent of the women said they believe their partner does care about her orgasm. It just looks like a lot more communication about what will get them there needs to happen.

Unfinished Business: 7 Reasons You're Not Getting Off

Why, oh why, is it so hard for some women to orgasm?
If you're not having an orgasm during sex, that's OK. Well, not OK in that you're going without such a fantastic pleasure, but OK in that you're definitely not alone. There are many women out there who don't orgasm as often as they should, and some who just never get there at all.

Studies have shown that only 25 percent of women orgasm during sex, 75 percent require some sort of extra stimulation, like toys, fingers or tongue to climax, and 10 to 15 percent never, ever have orgasm at all. Ever. Those are not very pretty stats, especially since 75 percent of men claim to orgasm all the time. (So unfair, isn't it?) But why, oh why, is it so hard for some women to orgasm?

While the female orgasm is still somewhat of a mystery, doctors and scientists have figured out a few reasons why women aren't climaxing, from stress to your high heels. Of course, unless you're dealing with a medical issue that's preventing you from having an orgasm, every woman's reason as to why they are not, is different. If you're having a hard time reaching an orgasm either alone or with your partner, here are seven possible reasons why.

The Longest Lasting Couples Are Great At Doing THESE Two Things

I mean, it makes sense.
It's not earth-shattering news that sex is an essential part of a long-term relationship. Sex connects you to your partner and helps you have a deeper understanding of them.
But how do you keep the sexual part of your relationship exciting and satisfying after you've been with your partner for a number of years, and how important is having good sex to the longevity of your relationship?
A study that's being published in the Journal of Sex Research found that the happiest couples not only have a lot of sex, but they talk about it, too. The researchers figured out that men and women who are sexually satisfied are also happier in their relationships.
Researchers at Chapman University, California State University, Sonoma State University, and the Kinsey Institute posted a survey in 2006 and then analyzed the answers of almost 39,000 married or heterosexual couples who lived together, all of whom had been together for at least three years. The average age was 40 for women and 46 for men.


Participants were asked to rate their current sexual satisfaction on a scale of one to seven. In addition, they were asked to rate their sexual satisfaction in the first six months of their relationship.
A huge majority of respondents remembered being satisfied in the first six months of their relationship, but only about half (43 percent of men and 55 percent of women) said they were currently satisfied. The rest reported feeling neutral (16 percent of men and 18 percent of women) or dissatisfied (41 percent of men and 27 percent of women).
"Sexual satisfaction and maintenance of passion were higher among people who had sex more frequently, received more oral sex, had more consistent orgasms, incorporated more variety of sex acts, took the time to set a mood, and practiced effective sexual communication," said David Frederick, Ph.D., lead author of the study said. "Almost half of satisfied and dissatisfied couples read sexual self-help books and magazine articles, but what set sexually satisfied couples apart was that they actually tried some of the ideas."
The study found that sexually satisfied men and women engaged in more intimate behaviors such as cuddling, gentle and deep kissing, laughing together during sex, and included more variety in their sex lives, like experimenting with different positions and acting out fantasies. Also, couples who were content with their sex lives and partners said "I love you" during sex and sent a suggestive or teasing texts earlier in the day.

"We looked at common romantic and sexual behaviors that are rarely assessed in the literature but are likely important contributors to sexual satisfaction," Dr. Frederick said. "For example, while sexual variety is deemed important for sexual satisfaction, evidence on the effectiveness of specific forms of variety — such as showering together or wearing lingerie or use of sex toys — is lacking."
Keeping things fresh and being open to trying different sexual techniques, talking about what you want, having more sex and orgasms are vital for long-term sexual satisfaction. And a sexually satisfied partner is a happy partner.

5 Sex Toys You NEED To Make Your Orgasms Incredible

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I Got A Shot In My Vagina And DAMN My Orgasms Are UNREAL

It's the Vampire Facial for vaginas.
By Emily McCombs
First off, let me just say that my vagina is A-OK as is. She looks fine, she tastes fine, she smells fine.
I’m a firm believer that God makes each beautiful clamshell perfect just the way she is. I still remember telling a male friend in my younger, more image-conscious days that I shaved my pubic hair off because it just seemed “more sanitary.” To which he responded, “It’s a vagina, not a hospital.”
And he was right — it’s not a hospital, nor is it one of those Philosophy bath sets that come out around Christmas with shower gels named “Sugar Cookie” and “Holiday Spice.” It’s OK if it just looks and smells and tastes like, you know, a vagina. I long ago stopped trying to achieve a smooth, plasticized Barbie crotch and now just keep things sort of tidy and contained down there, when I’m not too lazy.


But when you’re an online editor on the YOLO beat and you get a press release about VSPOT MediSpa that bills itself as a “vagina spa,” you sit up and take notice.
First of all, I love the phrase “vagina spa.” I can’t help but imagine a bunch of disembodied Upper East Side vaginas getting manicures while sitting under those 1950s hair dryers. Just treatin’ themselves, you know?
Also, VSPOT, founded by Cindy Barshop of “The Real Housewives of New York City” fame specializes in non-surgical procedures (no labiaplasty here) aimed at treating common issues like low sexual desire, dryness and incontinence.
Although there are some purely cosmetic services offered, I do get the vibe that the V-SPOT folks, like VSPOT MediSpa gynecologist Dr. Carolyn A. DeLucia, really do hope to empower women with their work.


“It’s not about him, it’s about us,” she says. “It’s mostly about returning to function. It’s about being comfortable in our everyday lives and intimacy is an important part of that.”
Delucia says they see all kinds of clientele at the spa, from a 21-year-old hoping to treat urinary incontinence issues that keep her running to the bathroom every half-hour to new moms hoping to regain the elasticity they lost during childbirth.
After I decided to take my vagina to the spa, I was left with the task of deciding what vagina service to avail myself of. Should I get the vagina steam, designed to “cleanse, tone and nourish the cervix, uterus, and vaginal tissues”? Nah, too Goop. Or the V-Lift, which promises to “plump and smooth out wrinkles” and, I kid you not, give me “Kylie Jenner-esque lips … on my lips”? Intriguing, but the service required a clean pap smear in the last 6 months, and my most recent was from 9 months ago.
That left me with The O-Shot, described as a “simple procedure that uses your own blood plasma, which is injected into the vagina, to enhance sexual pleasure.” OH, IS THAT ALL? You’re just going to take blood out of my arm and use a needle to inject it into my clitoris and G-spot? No biggie.

The O-shot is supposed to work by isolating plasma-rich platelets (PRP) from the blood, then injecting them back into the body, where the growth hormones within set to work rejuvenating the vagina, treating incontinence, looseness, dryness and lack of sensation. It’s the same process used in the Kardashian-approved Vampire Facial.
That’s right, somebody was like, “You know that creepy thing we’re doing to our faces to look younger? We should do that to vaginas.”
AND YET.
That O? It stands for “orgasm.” As in crazy-strong, “blow-a-hole-through-the-roof” orgasms. That last description is a quote directly from Delucia, who has had the procedure done herself and is effusive in her endorsement of it.

“After menopause, you lose sensation,” she says. “Sexual touch can feel like someone’s rubbing your forehead. This brought it back and then some.”
I’m far from menopausal, but like a lot of women, I do sometimes have trouble “getting there” with a partner. This is probably at least partly because of the antidepressants that help me shower regularly and not spend the entire day crying in bed. Sometimes, depending on how recently I’ve taken my meds, things just kind of “numb out” down there and I know there’s no hope.
Dr. Delucia’s enthusiasm and the promise of getting to tell people I have a VAMPIRE VAGINA is enough to propel me onto the doctor’s table, despite the inherent anxiety associated with getting a needle stuck into your clitoris.
Also despite this paper I had to sign stating that I understood the risk of CONSTANT VAGINAL WETNESS as a side effect:
Dr. Delucia took my blood, then applied a topical cream to my clitoris and inside my vagina, leaving me chilling for 20 minutes or so while she centrifuged my blood and my vagina went numb. It was sort of like the dentist, only with more vagina.
When she came back, she gave me several Lidocaine injections to further numb the area, assuring me I would only feel the “tiniest pinch.” I actually didn’t even feel that. I was totally numb.
When it came time to give me the O-shot, she paused with the needle hovering over my clitoris and gushed gleefully: “I love every time I do this because it’s such a gift.”


As she’d promised, the procedure actually was completely painless. I didn’t feel anything except her fingers inside my vagina when she did the G-shot injection, which just felt like a regular gynecological exam.
It was psychologically unsettling, however, realizing that I’d just gotten a needle shoved into my most tender parts. When I sat up and saw blood on the doctor’s paper, I felt a little woozy.
The doctor told me I could resume sexual intercourse immediately, but honestly I wouldn’t have wanted to that day. Plus, my vagina was still numb for several hours, giving me the odd impression that my genitals had fallen asleep.




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She outlined the immediate effects I could expect to see from the shot — she said the next day I’d likely wake up thinking, “Oh! I have a clitoris,” and that I’d be more sexually aroused over the next week or two, and start having heightened intercourse. Within 3 months, I’d feel the full effects of the shot and be having those hole-in-the-ceiling orgasms she’d told me about earlier. She even told me that I might start having G-spot orgasms for the first time.
On the way back to the train, it felt like my clitoris was vibrating. I could imagine the blood swirling around in there charging up my pussy for optimum performance.
For the first few days afterward, I wasn’t sure if I was feeling much. I thought I felt a little more aware of my clitoris (but not CONSTANTLY AWARE, whew), and it seemed like my orgasms might be a little different. In fact, the first thing my fiancé said when I had my first post-O-short orgasm was, “That seemed different.”
It definitely seemed a little different, but I hadn’t gotten off for awhile before that, so I wasn’t totally sure it was the shot. And I felt the same way about the next few orgasms — yeah, they seemed a little different, but was it really the shot, or was this just an “I want to believe” situation because I let someone put a needle in my vagina?


But then there was a distinct turn. By the third week, I started feeling much more sensation during sex. I was more quickly aroused, and it was much easier to orgasm once we got started. A few times I even got myself off with my hand during intercourse. My hand. I hadn’t gotten off without the horsepower of the Hitachi Magic wand in ages.
Having an orgasm felt like tipping the ball into the hoop from the rim gently, as opposed to shooting a 3-point shot from half-court. And the orgasms just seemed to get stronger and better, until they were lasting for what felt like minutes. (But were probably actually, like, 15 awesome seconds.)
“That seemed different,” became a regular post-orgasm commentary from my fiancé. In fact, I asked him this morning what specifically had changed about my orgasms, and he said that before I acted “kind of like a woman who’d just had a cat jump on her stomach,” and now I act like “that moment when the devil is inside you and they dump holy water on you.”
Then he volunteered that I was tighter post O-shot. “Like waaaay tighter.”


I was kind of regretting starting this conversation, but it’s true that that I basically become re-virginized every time we go a few days without banging. To me, having to force yourself back in there every time doesn’t really sound like a good thing, but apparently it is.
That said, I definitely wouldn’t have gotten the O-shot just for a guy.
As my fiancé points out, “Sex is about a lot more than just how a vagina feels. Super-vagina is nice but it doesn’t change the sex game. It’s like electric seat warmers in your car — it feels good, but if you’re not into taking your car out for a spin it’s not going to change anything.”
That said, my increased sexual satisfaction has definitely improved our sex life for both of us. (And it was already pretty bangin’.)


While the O-shot can cost around 1,200 to 1,500 dollars, it also lasts for about a year, and I can genuinely say that it improved my sexual function. I still have times when I lack the sensation to really get going, but I am still on antidepressants, and I can’t help but wonder how much stronger the effects would be if I weren’t.
Overall, I’m about twice as likely to feel stimulated during sex and achieve orgasm, and those orgasms are stronger and better every time.
I initially worried that women were having these procedures because they felt bad about their vaginas (testimonials like “Is it weird to say I have the vagina of a 25-year-old?” on the site don’t help with that perception). But my experience was that the O-shot, at least, could truly be a helpful tool for women experiencing sexual dysfunction, dryness or incontinence. Even the increased “tightness” is more about increasing sensation for the woman than pleasing her partner.
And I’m all  about medical advances that improve women’s sex lives, especially since most of the science in that area is aimed at helping men get their dicks hard.


Disclaimer: Before you decide to undergo any medical procedure, please consult your doctor. There are some risks involved and the procedure is fairly new so it hasn’t been subject to long-term study.
Also, I haven’t had any G-spot orgasms yet, but I’ve got a few weeks to go before the three-month mark. If it happens, expect to hear about it literally everywhere because I am never going to stop talking about it.

This article was originally published at Elite Daily. Reprinted with permission from the author.

4 Insanely Simple Steps To THE BEST ORGASM OF YOUR D*MN LIFE

Think you can't climax during intercourse? Think again!
Have you heard the myth that says some people can orgasm through intercourse while others can't? Well, don't believe it. Everyone can learn how to climax during lovemaking; it just takes a little practice and a lot of patience.
If you use the following four techniques correctly, you are going to be able to have an orgasm every time you get intimate!
1. Learn to relax your mind and body.
You need to understand that there is a vicious cycle that people often fall into when trying to reach orgasm during sex. They get uptight because they are not getting closer to orgasm, and this in turn makes it more difficult to actually orgasm. In fact, they are further away from having an orgasm because this causes extra tension and stress, which only makes it less likely for them to orgasm.

Learning to relax and not caring about having an orgasm may sound counter-intuitive, but it's actually vital if you do want to climax. So in order to proactively relax and let go, have sex in a place that makes you feel safe and relaxed — for example, your own bedroom.
Pamper yourself before you have sex. Take a nice, long bath or shower. Then, afterward, slip into something really comfortable. A surprisingly powerful way to relax is for your partner to say, "You are not allowed to orgasm tonight" or "I don't want you to orgasm." It works a little like reverse psychology and many people find that this takes the pressure off of them to climax.
2. Make foreplay last a long time.
Both men and women enjoy foreplay, and it ultimately leads to stronger and more powerful orgasms for both sexes. Make sure your partner knows this. So, how long should foreplay last? Ideally, it should last for at least 20 minutes, but it can last for much longer.

By spending up to two hours caressing, kissing, massaging and rubbing your body, you will both be more relaxed and aroused than if foreplay only lasted for three minutes. And being more relaxed and aroused means that reaching orgasm will be far easier.
3. Turn off the lights, and turn up the music.
Turning the lights off when you have sex has a powerful effect. If you are self-conscious about your body, you'll find that having sex in the dark takes away a lot of the pressure. In the dark, your partner can't see your body, he can't make eye contact with you, and he can't see what you are doing. This takes a lot of the anxiety out of sex for many people.
Listening to music is great for filling the room with sound that drowns out the sounds you and your partner are making. It can also turn you on and add extra eroticism to your sex session if it's an artist that puts you in the mood.

4. Explore what turns you on.
Relaxing and turning the lights off is all very good when it comes to learning how to have an orgasm, but it's a little passive. In order to be more active, find things that turn you on and bring you closer to orgasm. If you want to know how to orgasm every time you sex, you need to get to know your body intimately.
Think of it as fun homework. Spend a few nights alone in bed learning about what you enjoy, what turns you on and what brings you closer to orgasm. It could be direct clitoral stimulation, penetration with a dildo or vibrator, or even simple nipple stimulation.
No matter what it is that arouses you, it's important to find out. When you discover what enables you to orgasm easily, relay the information to your partner so he can apply what you learned when you're together.

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If This Is What Happens When You Orgasm, You Need To See A Doctor

How to know if you have a problem.
A good orgasm is something everything woman craves in the sack.
But be that as it may, it's also not exactly something you talk about with your doctor during your annual checkup.
Hell, for some it can even be hard to talk about their sexual pleasure WITH the person doing the pleasuring.
That's what makes PGAD so utterly terrifying.
It's the enemy of pleasure, turning your orgasm against you, and leaving you feel totally without a voice.
PGAD, persistent genital arousal disorder, for years were lumped in the same category as people with sex addictions or hyper sexuality.
It wasn't until 2001 that the condition became officially recognized. While no cause has been officially recognized, some experts believe it to be caused by damaged sensory nerves sending mixed messages to the brain and pleasure centers.


Sufferers of PGAD can have hundreds of orgasms in a single day.
I told a male friend
about this, and he just chuckled saying, "Sounds like puberty for guys."
It's easy to write off as a laughing matter. Who doesn't want to cum if given the chance, right?
But sufferers of PGAD often find themselves in real distress.
Some describe it as being akin to an allergic reaction.
Their genitals throb, itch, and ache and the only form of relief that they can find is to reach orgasm — whether they want to or not.


Having something biologically designed to bring your happiness turn into your greatest enemy is a mind fuck and a half.
Thousands of women have PGAD. Probably more, these are just the ones who talk to their doctors about it.
If this sounds like you, contact your doctor. There IS treatment, including medication, therapy, and even surgery. Take your life back!


1. Urges Come In Waves
Sufferers of PGAD often develop early and describe their need to masturbate as coming in waves or tides. They can go weeks without, but when the urge strikes them, it can stick around just as long.
2. You Can't Wear Certain Clothes
Fitted pants or jeans are off limits for you, your body simply finds them way too triggering. If you want to make it through the work day, you've got to plan carefully.
3. Your Orgasms Have Nothing To Do With Sex
The compulsion to orgasm has nothing to so with sex for you, it comes from the need to end the constant feeling of arousal you carry with you.


4. You're Never Not Turned On
We've all had our hornier moments, that's normal and healthy. A PGAD sufferer still feels aroused even right after (and even during) they orgasm.

If You Haven't Heard Of The Pulsator, Your Vagina Is MISSING OUT

It's not a vibrator! It's a pulsator!
Are you bored with the same old vibrations? If you’ve tried vibe after vibe and aren’t feeling erotically inspired, you’ll be thrilled to hear about the new toy in town.
I was so excited when I heard from my friends at Fun Factory, the producers of some of my favorite sex toys. They produce quality sex toys using 100 percent medical grade silicone and the quality of their German engineering shows in every one of their toys.
Inspired by NASA technology, Fun Factory invested eighteen months of research and development to create a whole new kind of sex toy. The result: the pulsator. The Stronic Eins, the first toy in the pulsator line, shakes things up by converting strong magnetic force fields into a thrusting motion, giving women a highly stimulating alternative to vibrators.


Users report that the orgasms induced by the Stronic feel “deeper” and “more emotional.” The thrusting motion is somehow more human than the buzz of a vibrator, and the various settings make the toy come alive with a variety of thrusting patterns.
From tiny little pulses to vigorous thrusts, the Stronic moves in ways that evoke the thrusting motion of intercourse. The higher settings start feeling a bit like vibration, but the slower, longer pulse settings take your pleasure in a whole new direction.


Most women will want to pair the Stronic with clitoral stimulation. Toy or no toy, most women do not climax from vaginal stimulation alone. You can try using one hand to hold the Stronic inside you and use your other hand to manually stimulate your clitoris. The toy is nearly silent, thanks to its magnetic technology. But that might not matter; even if the toy is quiet, we doubt you’ll be able to keep silent with the Stronic pulsating inside you.
We recommend always emphasizing human touch during masturbation and lovemaking. No toy can replace the dexterity and sensitivity of your fingers. If you really want to tap into your pleasure potential, learn how to stimulate yourself and your lover with just your hands.
Toys can, however, add a variety of sensations to your solo and partnered sex life. If you are bored with vibrators, try the Stronic and prepare to be thrust into a new dimension of pleasure.
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I Tried The Bumper Car Sex Position And It Was Basically Necrophila

One perk of the sexy move? You can massage each other's calves.
Of all the sex positions I've tried, this little number might be the strangest. And the most impossible and confusing. Unless your man has an exceptionally long dong, the Bumper Cars sex position doesn't seem like a particular enjoyable or physically feasible position.
This is how it goes: The woman lays on her stomach with legs splayed open. The guy in question lies down on his stomach facing 180 degrees in the opposite direction with his legs splayed wide open as well. He then backs up until his penis is aligned with the lady's vagina. Now in position, he can enter, making sure not to stretch out his penis.
When J and I got to trying it we were a little nervous. Would this even be fun? We quickly assumed position.
"Dude, how do I get my dick in you?" This is never something you want to hear when you're about to have sex with a guy.
"Well, that sounds hot. Angle it down more and I'll angle my vag up," I responded.
I arched my butt up a like a dog while my face lay smushed into the bed. It was awkward to say the least. Good thing I had just washed my sheets.
"OK I got it in," J said as though he was trying to screw in a lamp. As he started thrusting, I realized I couldn't move lest his penis slide out of my vag since penetration was so shallow. So basically, I had to lie there like a corpse. It somewhat was like necrophilia, minus the smell of decomposition. I was not feeling the Bumper Cars sex position.


"Are you enjoying this?" I asked.
"I feel like I'm getting chest burn from rubbing back and forth on the bed," he replied.
On a positive note, I was able to massage his calves and he mine. Unfortunately, I really wanted my clitoris massaged and not my legs or feet. Though I couldn't help but think that anyone with a foot fetish would love this.


We finally decided we had enough of trying to bump butts and switched to good old doggy style. At least there would still be some rear action. In the future, I'll save bumper cars for the amusement park.