Top Things – You Must Know How To Turn Her On

Turning on a woman maybe difficult at time, if you are dating a younger woman especially. A girl’s mind is preoccupied with other things, but her expectations are probably less high, than an older woman. Although no matter how old they are, females expect a level intimate pleasure and arousal to be achieved, otherwise they
Women experience arousal in their brain, rather than their groins. Men must to learn to tackle the mental barriers a woman has, so that she will let her mind relax and go with the flow. Most men also need to realize, that it is possible to turn a woman on without touching her. For many men, their sex lives would be greatly improved, if they understood a few critical things about what turns women on.

So listen up gentlemen and take notes.

Women Need Your Validation and Verbal Communication

Visual stimulation is often enough to get a man horny, however females need validation. Most women are turned off by being rushed, feeling like they must put out on command and being pressured into having sex. Whatever the situation always take time to do something other than head straight for the bedroom. Talk about her day how she is feeling this evening or about her plans for the next morning. This stimulates her emotionally and mentally, so she knows that nothing more important than she is herself. Never try to initiate sex, if she is emotionally stressed out, physically sick or feeling vulnerable for any reason.

Make your girl feel wanted through verbal communication and demonstrate to her that she is the most desirable girl around. If you learn to tackle her mind should be able to turn her on easily with just a glance or a few flattering sentences. Men underestimate the power of a good sincere compliment on a woman’s libido. Any amount of flattering and appreciation goes a long way towards getting them in the mood for love.

Create a Romantic Atmosphere and Tantalize Her Taste Buds

Having a romantic atmosphere is the key to breaking hidden barriers, but also women just love being catered to by their male partner. Treat her like a princess and let her know you are happy to serve her every whim, until her heart is content; however, do not over do it for it may prove counterproductive. Whatever your plan for romantic stimulation, make sure it is genuine and something you came up with on your own.

Several foods and beverages are simple aphrodisiacs for women. Avoid hard liquor, but maybe spring for some champagne or sparkling wine, this type of drink that can warm up those intimate urges and get her to relax a bit more. Sharing fresh strawberries and other fruits is always aesthetically sensual, put them with some ice cream or cheese; the mean will begin to turn her, as you enjoy the textures and tastes. Chocolate is well known, as an aphrodisiac that stimulates the sensual and arousal parts of the brain, this is why flowers and chocolates have traditionally been gifted to women. Because the yummy flavor of chocolate and candy have used to turn on women for centuries.

Make Her Feel Desirable and Sexy By Saying 3 Little Words

Making a girl feel special is the best way to arouse her, no matter what her age. Young women and more mature ladies need to know that they are the most desirable girl around. They need to hear it, out loud and from you. Even if you show it in other ways, when you are trying to get them in the mood, they need a demonstration of it. It can be a simple gesture, but whatever you do, it needs to let her know she desirable with 3 little words. You are sexy.

Remember, once a woman gets turned on, they can go for a long while sexually. So that little extra work on your part is a guarantee that she will be ready willing and able bodied. As a man, you just want her to want you, but she must want to have sex with you. This is why you absolutely must know how to turn her on.

8 Things You're Not Doing After Sex That You Should Be

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There’s a lot of literature out there about what to do before having sex and what to do during sex. (And we mean a lot of literature.) And hopefully, all of this advice has given you more confidence in approaching and executing the horizontal mambo.

But once the dance is over and you’ve both taken your final bow, it can get a little bit awkward. In movies or porn, you often see couples lying in bed after sex, their chests heaving in sweaty ecstasy, before cutting to the next scene. But there are a lot of other details to consider after sex that can make or break a successful sexual encounter.

“There are a lot of people that, after they've finished with sex, lie there thinking, 'Now what?,' says Lawrence Siegel, clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex educator."There are a lot of things that are physical and a lot of things that are more interactive and psychological that we are not doing."

Here are 8 things you’re not doing after sex, but probably should be doing.

1) Discreetly dispose of the condom.

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Most guys don't even consider this at all, but as a woman, I can tell you that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he disposes of his condoms. Obviously, taking a condom off is the least sexy part about sex, but you can do so in a way that isn't awkward or gross. 

First of all, you should never take a condom off and immediately toss it on the floor. The same can be said for tossing a condom into the garbage or flushing it down the toilet. "Take off the condom, wrap it in some toilet paper, and discreetly tuck it into the wastebasket," Siegel says. "No one wants to see a used, drippy condom hanging off the edge."

Oh, and this goes without saying, but always tie off the top before you throw it away. Otherwise, the contents of the wastebasket can get, uh, messy, and no one wants that.

2) Offer your partner some refreshments.

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If you’re getting up to dispose of the condom, it might be a nice touch to swing by the kitchen on the way back and grab a glass of water for you both.

"It's nice to offer water to your partner when you come back to bed," says Siegel. "You're both going to feel thirsty."

Siegel recommends letting your partner have a sip first. "It's being considerate in the very literal sense of the word," he says.

3) Use a towel to clean yourselves up and cover up the Wet Spot.

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Let's be honest — "usually, there's some clean-up to do as part of that post-coital ritual," says Siegel. You should offer your partner a towel and give them the opportunity to clean themselves off before you do so yourself. The towel can then be used to cover up the telltale "wet spot" — you know, the one that results literally every time you have sex, but no one ever talks about — so no one has to move to the edge of the bed or have a damp night's sleep.

“That little gesture can make a huge impact," says Siegel. "Bring a towel. It's just another one of those moments that says, 'See, I care,’” says Siegel.

4) Use the bathroom.

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This isn’t so much about being considerate to your partner, and more about basic hygiene: it's pretty crucial to go to the bathroom before and after sex, regardless of your gender. Peeing before and after sex gets rid of any bacteria that can get inside the penis or vagina during sex, which can lead to urinary tract infections.

"This isn't something we're typically taught, but it is important," says sex educator and coach Alicia Sinclair. She also recommends cleaning yourself with alcohol-free baby wipes. "Be delicate. Maybe give each other a soft massage afterwards," she says.

5) Clean your sex toys.

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After-sex cleanup is important in all areas. Cleaning your sex toys is something that's often overlooked, but if you don't do it, it can lead to problems down the road.

How you clean your sex toy depends on the kind of sex toy you have. "If you're using something that doesn't have a motor and is made of silicone, glass, or metal, they can be boiled in hot water," says Sinclair. "If your toy has a motor, use a cleanser that is intended for sex toys. These are typically more mild than antibacterial soap, which can degrade the silicone." System JO Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner ($9.00, buy it here) is a great organic cleaner, which is sensitive on the hands and won't hurt the body.

6) Check in.

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Aside from the literal things you should be doing after sex, there's also an emotional component to after-sex care.

"Often in porn, the end result is that everyone looks dewy and glowing, and that everything is perfect," says Sinclair. "It's important to recap after sex. Find out what we liked, or didn't like. What did we want more of? I don't think we often do that, and that it is necessary for a long-term, healthy sexual relationship."

Sinclair recommends always starting with a positive: open with what you liked that your partner did, and then ask what felt good for them. This opens the doorway for sexy conversation. It also leaves room to offer suggestions on what could be improved, or skipped altogether.

7) Stay in bed and cuddle.

"Don't just jump out of bed and run into the bathroom. Quiet time after sex should be a given. Chill together, whether it's cuddling or talking lightly or watching each other breathe," says Siegel. "Getting up to shower or use the bathroom are definitely OK and sometimes necessary, but preface it with the idea that you're coming back to bed."

8) ...or not.

That said, if you're both on the same page, one-night stands (i.e. no post-coital cuddling) are perfectly great and acceptable. Just because you have sex with someone does not make you obligated to stay over — but again, you should probably communicate your intention before sex.

"If you're going to leave and not stay the night, that's fine," says Siegel. "But don't get up and run out. Spend that cuddle time or chill time afterwards. Let it wind down and then make your respectful exit."

Facebook reveals how it ranks items in your news feed

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LONDON — Facebook is lifting the lid on the algorithm that decides which posts appear in its news feed, as part of a drive to be more transparent and offer greater control to users.

The feature “Why am I seeing this post?,” being rolled out Monday, offers some insight into the tens of thousands of inputs used by the social network to rank stories, photos and video in the news feed, the foundation of the platform.

“The basic thing that this tool does is let people see why they are seeing a particular post in their news feed and it helps them access the actions they might want to take if they want to change that,” Facebook’s head of news feed John Hegeman told reporters Monday.

After a series of privacy scandals, Facebook needs to regain users’ trust as it prepares to roll out a single messaging service combining Facebook Messenger, WhatsApp and Instagram that could make it even more central to users’ communications.

The new news feed feature will show users the data that connect them to a particular type of post, Hegeman said, for example, that they are friends with the poster and they’ve liked their posts more than others, they’ve frequently commented on that type of post before, or that the post is popular with users with the same interests.

It will detail some of the interactions that lead the algorithm to reach its conclusion, he said, although it will not show all of the thousands of inputs that influence the decision.

“We’ve tried to really focus on the signals that are most important and play the biggest role in what causes people to see a post or not,” Hegeman said.

“We don’t think this is going to solve everything on the theme of transparency but we think this is an important step.”

Facebook developed the new tool with research groups in New York, Denver, Paris and Berlin, he said, and as a result of feedback, Facebook has made it easy for users to access tools to control what is in the news feed themselves.

Facebook is also updating its “Why Am I Seeing this Ad?” feature launched a few years ago with additional details, Hegeman said, such as explaining how ads work that target customers using email lists.

The company shifted its strategy for its centerpiece news feed in early 2018 when it decided to prioritize posts from family and friends and downgrade non-advertising content from publishers and brands.