Monday, January 6, 2020

Women come first, sexposition second in TV’s recent depictions of female pleasure


The following contains spoilers of a narrative and sexual nature from "Watchmen" and "Mrs. Fletcher," both on HBO, and the new Apple TV+ series "See."
This past weekend provided a couple of interesting entries into the still-very-brief history of the female orgasm on television. One of them had social media abuzz on Monday morning with the sheer comedic extremity of it, specifically a “Watchmen” scene in which FBI special agent Laurie Blake (Jean Smart) settles in after an exhausting day of field work.
Inside her hotel room she cracks open a locked briefcase — entering the combination of 667 to do so — and reveals the prizes within. One is visual stimulation, a vintage copy of Esquire magazine with an illustration of herself on its cover, wrapped around her old flame, the blue-tinted Dr. Manhattan.
The other is a ridiculously large, blue sexual vibrator she has to assemble, an obvious replica of her old boyfriend's member designed to look like one of sculptor Jeff Koons’ gigantic inflatables.
Over on Apple TV+, meanwhile, viewers who got a gander at the Jason Momoa vehicle “See” were introduced to its evil villainess Queen Kane (Sylvia Hoeks), a blind woman who proclaims her divine right to rule and communes with a higher power by ringing her own bell.
In the first episode she declares she needs to pray, then gets busy with her digits. The second time we watch the queen frolic about her undercarriage, a subject is invited into her chambers to facilitate the process face-first.

During this sojourn into inner space, Queen Kane handily reveals her true reason for hunting a heretic roaming her lands. Turns out this man she has proclaimed to be an outlaw used to pray with her like this — twist! She tells this to the darkness, shuddering all the while, howling as she finishes.
Sexuality on television is no major shakes these days. Honest, accurate portrayals of female pleasure, however, are still enough of a novelty that when we see them depicted accurately, in their totality, and beyond the realm of premium cable, it’s worth noting.
Toni Collette made a few headlines when she proclaimed that her character’s on-screen orgasm in the 2018 series “Wanderlust” represents the first time BBC One has aired a scene of a woman climaxing (not so, as “Tipping the Velvet” viewers soon pointed out), but actually it’s sort of old hat by now. “The L Word” drowned out that novelty ages ago, along with “Sex and the City” and after that, the short-lived “Tell Me You Love  Me,” which alarmed critics by daring to show a depiction of a male character’s, ahem, bodily fluids.
What makes these newest erotic instances a bit different than, for example, the 2017 “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” musical number “The Buzzing From the Bathroom,” is that the writers are attaching female sexuality to a context of female power, for good or ill. It’s not simply that we’re seeing female characters take charge of their own pleasure — or in Laurie’s case, insinuate that getting it on with a dildo styled to remind her of her ex is just sort of how she rolls. It is that these interludes are a means of deepening the story.
In the case of HBO’s “Mrs. Fletcher,” taking her pleasure into her own hands is literally more than half of the entire plot. Once Kathryn Hahn’s empty-nester divorcee Eve no longer has to empty herself into the care of her son, she realizes that she’s spent so much time tending to others’ happiness that she has no knowledge of what brings her joy.
An Internet search or two later, along with the realization that she has the house to herself, allows her to explore new positions and every flavor of kink that makes her tingle, in addition to figuring out what doesn’t. In one particularly funny scene she flails around her living room, laptop nearby, spanking herself and talking dirty out loud . . . to nobody. Yet.

But “Mrs. Fletcher” and “Watchmen” are on HBO, the network that gave us all kinds of after-hours soft-core content and “Game of Thrones,” the series that notoriously inspired the term “sexposition.” The latter exploited female nudity and sexual violence against women to motivate male characters. Eve and Laurie, on the other hand, are women hooked on figuring themselves out first, or so these onscreen displays hint.
Queen Kane, a creation of Steven Knight ("Peaky Blinders"), is an entirely different and more puzzling vision, a woman whose conflation of spirituality and sexuality feels designed to intrigue and bewitch as opposed to serving up a commentary on power.
Then again, evil queens in popular culture are generally depicted as libidinous and dangerous. There’s a reason, for example, that the sensual and sinuous Angelina Jolie was cast as Maleficent as opposed to, say, girl-next-door Amy Adams.
But Hoeks’ wacky woman scorned is on another level: Her orgasms are pure sexposition that, at least in the first three episode of the series, feels gratuitous and slightly sinister. (The second interlude directly follows a murder of a political traitor. What’s sex without a little violence cherry as a topper?)
By way of innuendo, the female orgasm has been referred to in a number of creative ways on television, one of them being “seeing god.” To skirt the nervous Nelsons in broadcast network standards and practices, over the years network television writers have come up with a slew of more creative ways to talk about orgasms and sexual pleasure.
But we all know what Jerry, Elaine, Kramer, and George were talking about during the famous “Seinfeld” episode known as “The Contest.” And unless you’ve intentionally avoided all conversation about “Sex and the City,” you’ve watched Kim Cattrall’s Samantha Jones prioritize this hobby over just about everything else.
We’re betting even Samantha would be impressed by what Laurie Blake has in her toolbox, an intimate aid so gaudy and shiny that the first time she opens the briefcase, it glows like that never-revealed treasure in the case Vincent Vega and Jules Winnfield were guarding in “Pulp Fiction.”
The combo for Vincent's and Jules' case, by the way, was 666.
Damon Lindelof is famous for leaving Easter eggs strewn about for eagle-eyed viewers to call out and analyze. Some are MacGuffins, like Quentin Tarantino’s golden glowing prize. But Laurie’s helper is different.
Few lures are more effective in getting the audience’s attention than injecting some sexuality into the mix. The agent's artful vibe is a tool meant to drive viewers to referencing the history of “Watchmen” and that of Laurie who, as the second Silk Spectre, enjoyed a romantic relationship with Dr. Manhattan.

If you aren’t inclined to read the comic or a few Wiki character breakdowns, Dr. Manhattan is blue god-like character best remembered for walking around stark naked with his unit hanging out, with nary a care for this world. The inclusion of Devo’s 1978 single “Space Junk” as a part of Laurie's sensual ritual, which is interrupted at the start of the episode, is a nice tip of the hat to that silliness, as is the revelation that she keeps a pet owl in a cage in remembrance of another lover.
The Owl’s totem gets fed live mice. Dr. Manhattan’s mechanical fetish, the episode (titled "She Was Killed By Space Junk") implies, receives another kind of tribute.
That sex toy, along with Smart’s episode-long joke that she recounts, tells several stories at once, all of them about Laurie:  Laurie was one of the only beings on Earth Dr. Manhattan cared about, but his divinity eventually overpowered his affection. He’s still a part of the “Watchmen” universe, living on Mars and contactable by some magic god phone inside of a gigantic phallus-shaped booth. Maybe he listens to his ex's messages . . . maybe. Who can say? Dr. Manhattan is the ultimate distant lover.
The part of Dr. Manhattan than Laurie could rely on, however, she has replicated and takes with her — and when dialing 667 isn’t enough, she's able to get what she needs with the human next door, a younger co-worker eager to impress his idol.
At any rate, the befuddled, shocked, and aroused viewer may choose to look up the backstory on all of this, or trust what they see in front of them. Either way, it works, and it’s kind of glorious to see a mature female character in this position, played not as someone who is bereft or pining for her lost love, but who has learned to take what she needs from humankind instead of waiting for a hero’s salvation.
That may be a lot of meaning to assign the appearance of a sexual device. But at least it has a more positive reason to be there than those lengthy post-apocalyptic scenes of  a cruel leader grabbing herself by the genitals, simply because when you’re a queen in a blind world, they let you do it.

Netflix's "Sex, Explained" finds a balance between smart and steamy


When watching “Sex, Explained” — the new Vox-produced Netflix limited series — I couldn’t help but think of how woefully inadequate sex education in the United States is. Currently, only 13 states in the nation require sex education to be medically accurate, and the level of general deficiency has become something of a trope on television.
From “Big Mouth” to “Mean Girls,” depictions of the unprepared and unqualified sex education instructor, who is often also the gym teacher for some reason, causing some unsuspecting preteen to faint at the sight of an ovary diagram have become ingrained in the pop culture canon.
I think these curricular gaps open the door for sex ed-ish content targeted at adults; “Slutever” by Karley Sciortino for VICE comes to mind. In the web series, Sciortino dives into the world of sex robots, ecosexuality (people who believe that having sex with the Earth can save it), and “pet play.”
In both tone and topic selection, “Slutever” is inherently salacious — which is absolutely fun. But “Sex, Explained” excels in finding a voice that is smarter than it is steamy, which isn’t a surprise if you’ve watched the “Explained” Netflix series that preceded it.

The first season began streaming in 2018. Each week, a new mini-documentary — which clocked in around 20 minutes long — would debut, covering topics ranging from K-Pop to DNA to astrology. It was critically well-received for its fast-paced breakdowns of complicated topics; IndieWire’s Steve Greene wrote that “this explainer model has specific value in a growing, search-based relationship to knowledge that produces bite-sized understandings of vast-reaching concepts.”
Joshua Benton pointed out for Nieman Lab that “Vox’s new Netflix series is really good, but it doesn’t get us any closer to figuring out what news on streaming platforms looks like” — and that’s true. The topics dissected in “Explained” don’t directly respond to breaking news, but it has figured out how to provide a primer on buzzy topics. This was on display in their 2019 limited series “The Mind, Explained,” which covered subjects like dreams and anxiety, and in their normal season episodes on the female orgasm and monogamy.

“Sex, Explained,” which is narrated by Janelle Monae, uses the series’ now-predictable video essay format rich in animation and expert voices to examine sexual fantasies, attraction, fertility, birth control, and childbirth. Many of the episodes are guided by a seemingly simple question or two, like “How do I know if I’m attracted to someone?” or “We invented hormonal birth control over 60 years ago — shouldn’t it be better by now?” as a way to get in-depth about the physiology of human “chemistry” and the history and future of contraception.
As with previous iterations of “Explained” you won’t leave this series as an expert, per se, on any one topic, but it’s certainly an entertaining and informative start to some more adult-oriented sex education.


Sunday, January 5, 2020

Happy National Orgasm Day: 3 Ways To 'Finish' Like An Olympian


Happy National Orgasm Day! Here's how you can adopt an Olympian's mentality to earn orgasm gold.
It's no surprise that some of the world's greatest athletes are also the world's sexiest people alive. Just imagine getting down with an Olympian. The stamina. The endurance. The rock-solid muscles. I'm sure your lady bits are tingling with American pride at this very moment as you're fantasizing about Ryan Lochte.
But seriously, Olympians are gorgeous. And the Olympics are, apparently, one big sex-fest, if you ask soccer star Hope Solo. "I've seen people having sex right out in the open," she recently told ESPN the Magazine. "On the grass, between buildings, people are getting down and dirty." 5 Sexy Secrets About The Olympics
Unfortunately, we can't all have sex like an Olympian, unless that athlete is the winner of the 50-meter dash: A recent Durex survey revealed that for almost one-quarter of Americans, sex is a quick activity. In an effort to remedy that depressing statistic, Durex called upon relationship expert Dr. Michelle Callahan. In honor of National Orgasm Day, here's her advice on how to earn a gold medal for the big O:


Be sweet. Gentlemen, put down the barbells and turn up the charm. Dr. Callahan suggests romantic gestures throughout the day to encourage your woman to eagerly await the main event in the bedroom. Tell her she's prettier than those Dutch field hockey girls and that she's won the gold medal race for your heart; you'll definitely score big later on.
Sex isn't a race. Olympians strive to be the first to cross the finish line — to leave the competition standing in their dust. Do this in the bedroom, however, and you'll never find yourself on the podium. According to the Durex survey, Americans rarely experience mutual climax during intercourse. To remedy this, Dr. Callahan suggests introducing toys into your love life; think of them as approved steroids, if you will. Don't worry, we won't tell the Olympic officials.

Wrap it up. The Olympic Village is always well-stocked with condoms, and your bedroom should be, too. Not only do they protect your partner from unwanted pregnancy and potential sexually transmitted infections, but they can also improve performance. Just look for a brand that features unique textures to enhance pleasure. And don't be too proud to wear a love glove — if Olympians can wrap up their junk, so can you.

THE ONE-HOUR ORGASM


THERE ARE ESSENTIALLY ONLY TWO KINDS OF ORGASM, BUT ONLY ONE KIND CONNECTS US TO SPIRIT.
Orgasm is arguably the most intensely satisfying human experience.  For some of us, it’s as close to religious awe as we will ever get. It is no mistake that in the throes of orgasm many of us cry out divine phrases like, “Oh, my God.” Experience tells me that a juicy orgasm can provide a lift-off that propels us into higher consciousness and into the spiritual realms. Yes, there is a dynamic connection between ecstatic sex and spirit. Yet this esoteric function of orgasm as a vehicle for accessing the spiritual dimension through sex has gone mostly unnoticed by the majority of sexually active people.
Why is this so? Though most people are unaware of it, there are essentially two different types of orgasms. However, only one kind is commonly experienced. Virtually everyone’s orgasm is accompanied by a genital release. This is the type of orgasm that Masters and Johnson defined as “ the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension that results in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region accompanied by an intense sensation of pleasure.”


This conventional, but ultimately less fulfilling type of orgasm, is known as an “explosive” orgasm. The sexual tension builds until it can no longer be contained and then it is released in an explosive manner. Virtually all men and many women are familiar with the explosive orgasm. In fact, for a vast majority of sexually active people, it is the only kind of orgasm that they can imagine. Men know it as the typical ejaculation-orgasm characterized by genital release, loss of semen, loss of erection, and unbeknown to many men and women who have failed to connect the dots ---- loss of vital life-force energy. For a man, the “getting off” in this way is similar to a computer crashing. The system goes down and the party is over, at least until the power comes back on. Many women are familiar with this type of orgasm. Like untrained men, they too, follow the same formula. However, unlike men, women generally do not lose vital energy from coming.
The other type of  “implosive” orgasm --- the one-hour orgasm ---- is seldom experienced in conventional sex since genital release invariably short-circuits the process. It has many benefits because its influence extends far beyond the genitals and the pelvic region. It literally rejuvenates and sends healing energies to every cell. It is truly a full-body experience that is a more controlled, internalized experience that quite frankly requires a greater sexual skill-set, especially for a man. After all, it is he who must master the art of seminal retention. It is his sexual apparatus that must stay up and running long enough for the orgasmic energy to complete its internal circuit through the body until it permeates every cell.
THERE ARE ESSENTIALLY ONLY TWO KINDS OF ORGASM, BUT ONLY ONE KIND CONNECTS US TO SPIRIT.
The problem is that very few of us have had any formal training in the sexual arts. Most lovers simply do not have the necessary lovemaking skills to achieve sexual ecstasy. To pull it off, the lovers must remain in a high state of arousal, on the cutting edge, just below the orgasmic release point without spilling over, for a half-hour, an hour, or more. They must avoid a genital release so that the arousal has time to spread throughout the whole body, not just the genitals. If withholding genital release was correctly understood and practiced, lovers could harness the creative power inherent in the sexual force and use it for spiritual enlightenment by having prolonged, leisurely, full-body one-hour orgasms.


As you might imagine, explosive and implosive orgasms differ in their results. When sexual energy is released in a gigantic burst, the result is a reduction in sexual tension, interest and consciousness. Yes, it is quite relaxing, and may even be sleep inducing (a sure sign of energy loss), but that is the extent of it. It can never be deeply fulfilling simply because it does not involve the whole body. Only whole body orgasms stimulate the higher energy centers such as the heart and brain. As far as a man is concerned, only implosive orgasms have the capacity to leave him energetically engorged rather than sexually depleted.
The dynamic connection between ecstatic sex and spirit can only be experienced when sexual energy is contained in the body and allowed to ascend. We’ve all heard that sex begins in the brain ---- true enough ---- but while the explosive orgasm ends at the genitals and short-circuits the one-hour orgasm ---- the implosive orgasm returns the rejuvenating orgasmic energy back to its source ---- the master glands in the brain where consciousness is transformed. This recycling step is the key to spiritual illumination just as avoiding the conventional genital release is the key to the one-hour orgasm.

Saturday, January 4, 2020

Clitoris Awareness Week: Time To Celebrate Your Pleasure Organ

clitoris week
Yep, a 7-day celebration for your power organ.
When the discussion turns to female body parts, it seems the clitoris always gets the shaft.
So says Nadine Gary, the spokeswoman for "International Clitoris Awareness Week," a 7-day celebration to a part of the female body that's shrouded in mystery.
"The clitoris is a magnificent organ that has been ignored, vilified, made taboo, and even considered sinful through antiquated, patriarchal religious teachings," Gary told The Huffington Post. "It's time to give it the attention it deserves as the only organ with an exclusive sexual pleasure function."
The first "Clitoris Awareness Week" was organized last year by Gary's group, Clitoraid, a Las Vegas-based group helping victims of female genital mutilation around the world.


That is a serious issue, but Gary wants the focus of "Clitoris Awareness Week" to be on the pleasure that is derived from the organ.
Find out more about the week and see where the celebrations are at Huffington Post Weird News: 'International Clitoris Awareness Week' Pays Homage To 'A Magnificent Organ'

Love Bytes: To Call Or Not To Call? That Is The Question

woman waiting for call
Plus, butt facials are actually a thing now. (The things we do for love.)
The date is great. The kiss that follows is even better. You're all smiles as you go your separate ways, but then....nothin'. No phone call. No text message. Handsome McSmiles just vanished into thin air. He must have been faking his interest. Right...? (A New Mode)
Singing. Orgasms. Singing and orgasms. It sounds like a good idea at first, but in practice — it's probably not a good idea. (Huffington Post Weird News)
No one has ever sat down and said,"Wow, I think my butt needs to be exfoliated." Nowadays, butt facials are becoming an expectation instead of an eyebrow-raising practice. Does your hiney need a day at the spa before bikini season? (SheFinds)
9 of the most dangerous vacation spots in America. Thinking of taking a mini vacay with your love? Travel is hard, but it can also be romantic. Where should you and your SO spend the weekend? Here are 9 places that you should probably avoid if you're looking to have a good time. (Guyism)


The big day has arrived! You're wearing a ridiculously expensive dress. Your friends are your servants for the day. You've cried more than twice already. Nothing seems to be going right. Your face looks flawless. A woman's wedding day is a BFD. Here are some things you shouldn't forget on the big day! (SheFinds)
Just because he put a ring on it doesn't mean that he shouldn't take you out on dates anymore. You're going to be with your husband forever. Might as well keep things interesting! Here are 10 date ideas for married couples. (Cupid's Pulse)
25 things you shouldn't do naked (but people did anyway). Climbing him like a tree doesn't sound all that appealing when the him is actually a tree and you're naked. Chafe central. Yikes. Our birthday suits are comfortable and many of us enjoy doing things while being wild and free (I meant sleep; get your minds out of the gutter). There are some things you should never do while naked; here are 25 of them. (Guyism)
Love isn't easy. Love doesn't pay the bills or necessarily keep your relationship happy. Everyone needs a little help sometimes. Marriage counselor, Marcia Naomi Berger, has some advice to dispense. (Cupid's Pulse)


Girls in leather, boots, and riding motorcycles? What other reason do you need to start a biker gang with your besties? Badass and beautiful sounds like a good life motto to me! (DearVagina)
Men love breasts. Women wear breast well. There is a mutual appreciation going on here. Babies need milk and the milk that's best for them is provided by their mother's breasts. So why has breastfeeding been banned from certain public places? Shouldn't that count as child neglect — I mean, they are preventing me from feeding my child. (DearVagina)
Ever been bitten by a bug? Well, you probably know how irritating they are. They're itchy and uncomfortable and make you wanna punch someone. Here are 6 ways to stop a bug bite from making you scratch like crazy. (ModernMan)
Wanting to be more than just friends with someone is a dilemma that most people face at some point in their lives. Being stuck as a buddy sucks, but not everyone will share your feelings. We have to respect that, but it doesn't mean you can't try to get them to see you differently. (ANewMode)


Teenagers are precocious, awkwardly tall bundles of angst. But their sarcasm is often amusing. This young lady decided to go out with a funny yearbook quote, but it almost got her in some serious trouble with the school administration. I guess they don't like puns. (BroMyGod)
I've learned how to wield eyeliner and mascara so I don't look like one of the undead after I wake up in the morning. But, makeup artist Elsa Rhae has an incredible gift for making characters come to life on facial canvas. (BroMyGod)
What girl hasn't wanted to be a princess? Who doesn't want to be treated like the most special person in the room or live in a castle? We probably won't ever get our princess wishes to come true (except for Kate Middleton) but we can go stay in a castle hotel to make ourselves feel better! (HiConsumption)

Wednesday, January 1, 2020

Fireworks! A Sure-Fire Way To Reach Simultaneous Orgasm


For couples, having an orgasm at the same time should be about fun not fuss.
In Manhattan, Woody Allen’s character, Isaac, is chatting about sex with a group of well-coiffed partygoers when an attractive young woman admits, "I finally had an orgasm, and my doctor said it was the wrong kind."
A bit taken aback, Isaac responds, "I’ve never had the wrong kind, ever. My worst one was right on the money." If there’s one lesson to take from that scene, it’s that you shouldn’t attend cocktail parties full of neurotic intellectuals.
If there’s a second lesson, it’s that you shouldn’t over-analyze your orgasms. But that’s just what many couples do in their search for the much-hyped, yet often-unattainable, simultaneous orgasm.


Coming at the same time can indeed be a mind-blowing experience, but focusing only on that and nothing else can ultimately kill the mood and leave both people in the dust on the orgasm trail.
The key—at least, initially—is to approach simultaneous climax the way you would S&M, anal sex, or inviting a truck-stop hooker into bed with you both: as a way to augment your sex life, rather than its end-all and be-all.
"People tend to think that you simply get caught up in the moment, the stars and planets align, and then—boom!—it just happens," says Yvonne K. Fulbright, sexologist and author of The Hot Guide to Safer Sex. "In reality, it takes a great deal of time and practice. Yet couples assume that since they’re not having them—or not having them enough—they don’t have a good sex life."
Which, of course, is baloney. Women typically need a different kind of stimulation than men—rarely obtained from vaginal sex alone—and they typically need it for a longer period of time. If you don’t approach it correctly, those basic physiological discrepancies could turn coordinating your climaxes into a tedious, unsexy logistical nightmare.


Luckily, there are ways to help close the gap between woman and man that don’t require both parties picturing an oiled-up Brad Pitt in a French sailor uniform.
For starters, since many women find it easier to have their second, or even third, orgasms after they’ve enjoyed their first, the woman can come once as a warm-up before both partners go for the gold.
After several unsuccessful tries for simultaneous O’s, Jay and Violet* found that paying attention to her needs first ultimately served both of their best interests. "If Jay goes down on me with minimal foreplay, I’ll have a ‘mini-orgasm’ that leaves me wanting another," says Violet, a 33-year-old Web editor. "That’s when I’ll get on top of him so that I’m in control, and he has access to my clitoris. When I’m ready, I simply speed up, and that usually puts him over the edge."
Positions definitely matter. Because few women can climax without some sort of clitoral stimulation, it’s important to be situated so that either the man or the woman can provide that friction—and having her on top gives both partners easy access.


There’s also the atrociously named "coital alignment technique," a variation on the missionary position in which the man shifts his weight forward and the woman wraps her legs around him, keeping them relatively straight. She presses upward as he gently rocks backward, and—voilĂ !—clitoral stimulation.
Keep in mind that simultaneous orgasms still count if they’re achieved through manual or oral stimulation.
In fact, many couples find those methods more productive, pointing out that they can even serve as springboards to full-on intercourse.
"We have the best luck coming together while 69-ing," says Mark, a 27-year-old law student. "It’s just much easier to gauge how close my girlfriend is. I can either speed her up or slow her down depending on where I’m at—and she can do the same."


When your face is … where your face is during oral sex, it’s usually fairly easy for you and your partner to figure out each other’s level of arousal, and time your orgasms. When you’re trying to come together during regular sex, communication is far more important.
It can be as straightforward as one person telling the other that an orgasm is imminent, or as subtle as looking for physical signs that someone is about to come—held breath, arched back, a look on their face like they’ve just learned Bambi’s mother died.
Be sure not to let expressing what you’re feeling take you out of the moment.
"Women need to feel comfortable communicating, and men need to be adept at recognizing a woman’s signs of arousal," explains Ian Kerner, a sex therapist and the author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. "Studies have shown that women’s brains basically shut down when they near orgasm, so being too conscious of talking about it can interfere with a process that should be subconscious."


Though discussing your state of arousal ad nauseum can be a real turnoff, a little dirty talk can be sexy and deliver essential information. That’s how Ken and Wendy inadvertently discovered the position that practically ensures simultaneous orgasms: in bed—but in separate ones, 3,000 miles apart. "We always came at the same time when we had phone sex," explains Wendy, a 37-year-old chemist. "But we seldom talked when we were in the same place having sex, and we had a lot of trouble coming together. When we kind of combined the two, we found out that it synced us up almost immediately."
Good communication helping a couple function better as a unit? Now I've heard everything.

7 SHOCKING (And Totally REAL) Health Benefits Of Sex

couple kissing in grass
So. Many. Benefits.
Are you exercising regularly? Eating right? Having regular sex?
Sex is not just for pleasure, procreation and fun. It's also part of a healthy lifestyle. Here are seven reasons to have sex for the health of it, and notice that you don't need another person to reap the rewards!
1. Pain relief. Orgasms switch your state of mind from pain to pleasure. Also, the contraction and relaxation of muscles can relieve cramps and some pain instantly.  

2. Mood improvement. Are you feeling blue? Orgasms increase estrogen and endorphin levels, which improve a woman's mood.
3. Increased emotional connection. Another hormone, oxytocin, which has often been called "natures bonding agent" increases up to five times at the point of orgasm.


4. Better sleep. Rolling over and going to sleep after sex is one of nature's gifts. According to research, you have 15-20 minutes of cuddle time before the oxytocin kicks in.
5. Reduced stress. The neurotransmitter dopamine released during arousal induces a state of relaxation that intensifies at orgasm. 
6. Physical glow. Both men and women are perceived to look younger and healthier after an "O." Sex and orgasms can be one of the best spa treatments available to you. The best part? They are free!
7. Improved immunity. Sex strengthens the immune system, which keeps you healthy. And besides, it feels good.