Give Her The Biggest O’s Of Her Life

 

What is an Australian kiss?

It’s a French Kiss… but down under.

There are a lot of words for it: going downtown, eating p*ssy, carpet munching, muff diving, and even the proper term: cunnilingus.

But there’s a reason I like the term “Australian Kiss.”  It gives you a sense of exactly what you should be doing… 

You’re not eating. You’re not diving. And if you’re munching — you’re doing it very wrong. (And she’ll ask you to leave, lol.)

But a French Kiss is a perfect analogy.

It’s a kiss, but more intense, with tongue and exploration.  

It is an underutilized gift given to us by the universe. 

There are different ways one can eat out their partner and make it extremely memorable to all parties involved…

Various studies and interviews done by Ben Buckingham on different women from different backgrounds and of different levels of sexual experience have actually shown that women have more orgasms from oral sex than any other penetrative type of sex.

I personally think that going down on her is fundamentally important in spicing up your bedroom life. 

It makes it that more interesting while creating a different kind of intimacy; a deeper kind. In fact, according to research, oral sex can help increase relationship satisfaction. 

But…

You need to do it right.

There are a few tips and tricks that will be shared here that can be really helpful when you want to pleasure your woman orally or simply spice things up in the bedroom… 

And I’m going to share them with you today, so you give any woman the most memorable and intense sexual experience of her life:

1) It’s Counter-intuitive: First Ignore the Vagina…

Do NOT do what most thirsty men do–don’t go straight to the clitoris. 

Build up tension! 

Most men underestimate the power of foreplay, and that to many women the buildup is the most important part of having any type of sex. 

Take your time for proper foreplay in any situation, and you can guarantee that your woman will experience deep, explosive and intense orgasms.

It will make her dripping wet in a matter of minutes. 

Play around with her whole body first before going anywhere near her vagina. In fact, make her feel uncertain about your next move…

Assuming the both of you are already naked at this stage, start kissing her neck and move downwards to her breast, thighs then legs. 

Kiss or suck her breast tenderly and gently while keeping your hands on her body. 

Get into the inner part of her thighs and kiss her gently; you can suck on them a little too. The inner part of the thigh is actually a very sensitive part on a woman’s body and you should use this to your advantage.

Take your time to move up and down her body, appreciating the view and gradually kiss harder every time. 

Make sure you have steadily kissed and caressed every crevice on her body. By now she will be well aroused and will start to thrust her pelvic area towards you almost like she’s presenting her p*ssy to you; begging you to kiss her clitoris…

These are some of the best oral sex tips…

2) Go to (Clit) Town…

Finally give her what she has been begging for! 

You can start by placing a pillow under her pelvic area to make it more accessible and visible. Kiss her vulva gently and using only your tongue separate the inner vulva lips from the outer lips; don’t go straight to the bullseye.

Avoid using your fingers at this stage, let her enjoy your tongue and lips for a while before proceeding on to using your fingers.

The first lick on the clit should be long, slow and soft; preferably from the vaginal area all the way up to the clitoris. Eat it like you mean it!

Using the tip of your tongue, apply a little pressure and slowly lick her clit making sort of small circles. You should increase the pressure as time goes by. Do this continuously and consistently for a few minutes until when you are almost certain she is going to c*m. 

You can adjust your tongue accordingly to how your lady wants it. You can start with a soft relaxed tongue then as things get hotter you can proceed to making it firmer and thicker. 

DO NOT start biting on the labia or pull on it with your mouth. It hurts! If you are included to do this, please stop taking notes from porn.

3) Emulate Penetration

At this point, she is probably gasping for air or grabbing onto the sheets… This is the perfect time to insert a finger or two in to emulate penetration. 

You will almost certainly make her convulse with pleasure. 

Finger her in an inward and outward motion as you circle her clitoris using the tip of your tongue. Stay consistent with this before she climaxes. 

Find her G-spot, which is usually a bit further in on the upper wall of the vagina.

If she is into it, you can press gently but firmly on the opening of her anal region which will simply serve to turn her on more. 

Talk dirty to her — you can ask or tell her a wide range of things as long as you stay in character. This means be yourself, and don’t say things that she isn’t used to hearing from you. 

Taking your mouth off her long enough to tell her that she is delicious or how you can’t get enough of her will make her feel more aroused.

Don’t get excited when you see her about to climax, and start to go faster.

If anything you should go slower as she peaks. As she orgasms, the clitoris tends to be more sensitive. 

If you go too fast it will be very uncomfortable for her and she will try to shut her legs or push your head away…

4) Clean Up… (You’re Both Probably Messy)

If she did orgasm, then please continue to do what you’re doing. 

If they did not, it’s still okay because not everyone will. Do not be disheartened; an orgasm is not the only way to tell if one enjoyed the experience or felt pleasure. 

An Australian kiss is an amazing way to switch things up and have the much needed fun in the bedroom or couch.

Now hit the shower for clean up… and maybe a little shower sex, where you can use this little trick:

Keep reading for some bonus oral sex tips…

Be Careful When Using This Following Technique During Oral…

You can REALLY get her gushing during oral…

So much so that she has multiple, POWERFUL orgasms…

And will be so grateful that she’ll never want to have sex with any other guy ever again…

NOW we're going to take her RIGHT over the edge…with a certain fingering technique, pioneered by a famous lesbian porn director (and tantric master).

The result was often violent, squirting, multiple orgasms… one stacked on top of another.

Many times the “gay for pay” girls would enthusiastically ask “So when’s the next time I can get finger-f**ked by a hot girl like that again?”

If it works on these women, who are straight as an arrow, to make them full-on lesbians…

Then it will work amazingly for you, too.

Discover How To Use Power Play Sex For More Pleasure

 I guess most of you reading this knows what I mean, when I talk about how boring a relationship might become when the first crush has died out. 

In the average relationship there is a lot of sex in the beginning! 

Then a steady decline sets in, while TV or the smartphone slowly becomes more interesting than the partner…..

… that is, unless you work really hard to keep the fire going or choose to do something completely different. 

In my relationship we chose to do something completely different, before everyday life and boredom began to kick in.

Male Chastity: The Secret to a Scorching Sex Life?

I locked my husband's c**k in a chastity device and I only allow him to have an orgasm on very rare occasions! 

There are usually months between his orgasms…

Yes, some might consider this to be rather extreme. 

But please read on and hear me out, because I know from experience that it really works.

We have been together for almost 8 years, but our sex life is on fire and we are still having sex every day, just like we did in the beginning!

When I started telling my girlfriends about the little secret made of steel between my husbands legs, and that my husband gave me a lot of orgasms, they always asked how many orgasms ”a lot” meant. 

I didn’t know, so I started counting, and now I have the stats to back up my assertion. 

In The Past Year Alone My Husband Has Made Me Come 382 Times…

In the past year my husband has made me cum 382 times.

That is more than an orgasm a day.

And this number doesn’t include the orgasms I give myself.

How about that?!

And now to the next important question:

Why does locking your husband in chastity work so well?!

It’s actually very simple. 

When a man has had an orgasm, his focus changes from his partner to … well to anything else really. 

He falls asleep or wants to watch football og go to the pub. 

The contrast from when he was aroused and only had eyes for his partner is amazing. 

No more compliments or sweet kisses at the back of the neck. 

No more taking out the trash, doing the dishes or rubbing her feet to make her happy.  

Why this sudden change?

Research has shown that part of the explanation is to be found in the level of the ”love hormone” oxytocin in the man’s bloodstream. 

Oxytocin is believed to have positive relationship-enhancing effects, since a high level of oxytocin is associated with trust, empathy and bonding. 

Oxytocin is released during sexual activity and any other form of intimate activity, but just feeling close and connected to another person releases oxytocin as well.

When a man has had an orgasm, the level of oxytocin in his bloodstream becomes significantly lower compared to the level before–whereas the oxytocin level in the woman’s bloodstream tends to remain high after orgasm.  

In short:

When the male is aroused, the level of oxytocin in his bloodstream is high, and he acts as if he has just fallen in love with you. 

The woman gets exactly the same effect from having an orgasm. 

And Here's How This Can Strengthen Your Erections & Drive Naturally…

So when I am not allowing my husband to have orgasms, and when I tease him to make sure he is aroused 24/7, his behavior changes in a very good way. 

He becomes extremely eager to please me, and he does a lot of things to make me happy. 

Since I have all the orgasms I want, this way of living has the same effect on me. 

What’s not to like?!

But wait! I am not done.

There are other advantages to locking up his c**k in a cock cage! 

First of all, it puts a very efficient stop to masturbation. 

Another wonderful thing about this little game is that it also works when you both grow older, and erections are not as frequent and as hard as before. 

This will actually work for the rest of your life together!

Is This Somewhat “Extreme” Method For You?

My husband and I live in a Female-Led Relationship, so in my case it was not a problem to lock up his c**k in a chastity cage. 

I just announced that this was the way things were going to be from now on. 

For couples living in more traditional relationships, it might be rather tricky though.

The first step is telling your partner about the advantages he or she will experience, if the man is kept in chastity. 

Are there really any advantages about being locked in chastity?

Are there any advantages in giving up control of your c**k and being denied orgasms? 

Fortunately the answer is YES! 

My husband has been locked for years now, and when I asked him about it a few days ago, he said that he wouldn’t go back.  

He loves what it does to our relationship. He loves how it makes him worship me. And he loves how it makes him feel aroused 24/7.

After telling your partner about all the benefits he or she will experience–and maybe even looking at websites about the subject together, it’s time to decide.

Suggest trying it … just for a few days. 

That period of time is long enough to experience the wonderful benefits from male chastity, and yet it’s short enough to not seem impossible to manage.  

We started out with three days, and like many others we haven’t looked back since. 

My husbands c**k is locked. I hold the key. And we both want it to stay that way! 

I get more and more emails from couples in ordinary relationships with questions about male chastity and chastity cages.

A lot of them decide to move on and give it a shot…. and most of them enjoy the game. 

However, I know this method is not for everybody…

So if you'd like an easier way to enhance your sex life (and erections)… I highly recommend you try this:

Keep scrolling for a surefire way to curl her toes in bed tonight…

Not So Sure About Putting Your Junk in A Cage? Here’s An Easier Way to Boost Your Boners Naturally…

While I can’t deny that this system works INCREDIBLY well for my husband and myself…

It’s true that we are in a bit of a “unique” relationship, and if you don’t have a dominant-submissive thing going on… then yeah, asking your woman to lock your d!ck up like it’s a poisonous snake might be a bit… “extreme.”

Fortunately, there are MANY things you can do to give your libido–and your boners–a nice “boost”…

… even if things have “dropped off” for you in the bedroom, or things aren’t working *down there* as well as you think they should.

For example?

Often called the “Sex Snack” in the community, this little-known potent concoction is known to boost your blood flow where it counts…

Which means harder erections, more intense orgasms, and even more “random” erections too… (as a woman I can tell you… those are a HUGE turn-on! ;-))…

How to Have Multiple Orgasms

You've heard whispers and rumors, but actually having multiple orgasms? Well, that sounds as achievable as making it to a 6 a.m. cycling class on a Saturday.

Good news: Sexperts are here to reassure you that multiple orgasms really do exist and—even better—that everyone can have them.

How many orgasms can you actually have?

The limit does not exist. "I had a client who would regularly have 30 to 40 orgasms in a session with her partner. She may be the extreme but having one to five is totally normal and doable for any woman," says Kim Anami, holistic sex and relationship expert.

Obviously, you don't need convincing as to how great an orgasm is, but there are actually benefits beyond just pleasure.  "Touch, pleasure, and orgasms all have a host of health benefits, including boosting your immune system, regulating sleep cycles, alleviating anxiety and depression, and creating emotional well-being," says Chris Rose, sex educator at PleasureMechanics.com. Plus, the more pleasure you feel, the more adept your body becomes at releasing the pleasure hormones, so it becomes a positive feedback loop, she says. In addition to the chemical and hormonal benefits, orgasms can also lead to greater degrees of emotional release and openness.

And if one orgasm is healthy, imagine how much better off you'd be with two or more!

So, the question on all of our minds is: How can you have multiple orgasms?! "Many women don't allow themselves to get fully aroused, and arousal is what fuels multiple orgasms," explains Rose. This is a long road, and one you might not reach the end of on the first try, but Rose and Anami have a pretty thorough guide to help you get there. To achieve maximum arousal and multiple orgasms, follow these seven steps:

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Your Step-by-Step Guide to Having Multiple Orgasms

1. Check your emotions.

Building arousal and experiencing multiple orgasms in one go is definitely about physical technique (don't worry, that's coming up), but the first step is setting your thoughts and emotions straight. "Becoming a multiorgasmic woman is a mindset more than anything," says Rose. 

It's as easy as believing it's possible for you personally to climax more than once, says Anami. Next is learning to relax: "Deeper orgasms are all about a very intense state of release, so you have to be willing to dive into the unknown and let go," Anami adds. Once your attitude starts to shift, two or more orgasms may well become your new normal, says Rose. 

2. Slow them down.

This is important if you're with a male partner.  "Male stamina is crucial in women being able to reach higher states of pleasure and orgasm more," says Anami. In fact, the average man takes anywhere from three to seven minutes to climax, while the average woman requires anywhere from 10 to 20—a discrepancy researchers call "the arousal gap." How do you close that time frame? Female-focused foreplay is one of the best techniques because it allows you to start down the excitement path earlier than him, which leads to…

3. Let them lavish you with pleasure.

Your partner wants nothing more than to see you orgasm once or twice (don't worry, if it's a guy, he'll catch up!). "Most lovers are generous and willing and take pleasure in seeing their partner enjoy more than one orgasm—but many women have a hard time receiving so much attention and letting the erotic focus be on their own pleasure," says Rose. If you want to experience the thrills (re: multiple orgasms), give yourself permission to be the star of the sexual experience. If you have any worries like "I'm taking too long" or "They must be getting bored down there," then no amount of great stimulation will help. 

4. Help them with the handy work.

"For most women, your partner's hands and mouth are the best tools for helping you peak, so make sure they know how to use them," says Rose. Show them exactly how you like to be touched—and then let them explore.  "A lot of women love the combination of oral sex with a few fingers inside. This works for a good reason, as this combination allows stimulation of both the external clitoris and its internal roots," Rose suggests. Move their hands to where you touch yourself, and give them audible feedback on what is working for you—right up until you reach your first peak.

5. Take a breath.

"After your first orgasm, take a moment or two to savor the afterglow before you start building arousal back up again. Your next orgasm might be mere minutes away," says Rose. Focus on your breathing to maximize the effects of your multiple-orgasm experience: "When people get sexually excited, they tend to hold the breath or breathe really shallow," says Anami. "The more you can practice deep, steady breathing, you'll relax, stay in the present moment, and also increase the power and pleasure of your orgasm."

6. Turn to orgasmic intercourse.

If you're moving on to penetrative sex, keep up the clitoral stimulation, Rose suggests. The majority of women worldwide don't orgasm from penetrative sex alone, but instead can only climax from clitoral stimulation, reports a study in the journal Clinical Anatomy. "For most women, this is how they can get to full (and multiple) orgasms during intercourse," she adds. (Start here: Make use of these best sex positions for clitoral stimulation and how to get more pleasure out of common sex positions.)

7. Keep the connection.

The deeper vaginal orgasms are all about a very deep state of release and letting go. Feeling like you're on the same wavelength as your partner can help you achieve an intensely satisfying multiple-orgasm session. "Maintaining eye contact is intense, but this forces you to be more vulnerable and open, which is key to these deeper orgasmic experiences," says Anami.

And once you reach your second orgasm, the doors are wide open: "If you can have two, you can have three, four, or more! There is no limit on how many orgasms a woman can experience," says Rose. If it doesn't happen the first time, don't worry—practicing having multiple orgasms is something you and your partner can both enjoy. 

Pilates Workouts Lead to Better Orgasms

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When it comes to having stamina in the sack, fitness fanatics definitely come out on top. But the sexual perks of working out are not limited to hardcore CrossFitters or marathoners, the subtle art of Pilates can definitely help you between the sheets.

Most people associate the Pilates Method with flat abs. But to get that toned torso, you have to work deep. I mean really deep. I am talking pelvic floor deep. Yep. That muscle group worked during Kegel exercises is also worked in Pilates. There's a kind of neurological synergy between the pelvic floor and the transversus abdominis, the deepest layer of ab muscle. So when you pull your navel to your spine, like you do multiple times in every Pilates class, you should also be engaging your pelvic floor too. It's like a Kegel but with an extra lift.

Regularly working the pelvic floor, often referred to as the "vagina muscles"-although men have pelvic floor muscles too-can lead to stronger, more satisfying orgasms; the pelvic floor muscles go off with your uterus and cervix during the contraction and release of orgasm. Squeezing these muscles during sex creates heightened sensations for your partner too. True story: many of my former clients' husbands thanked me for teaching their wives this technique.

Beyond strengthening the deep muscles of the pelvic floor, Pilates helps mobilize the entire pelvis by unlocking tight hips and loosening lower spines. Releasing this area means the pelvis can rock up an down and move in all sorts of circles; many Pilates exercises involve elements of slo-mo twerking and little gyrations-good moves to learn. Gaining mobility in this region leads to more uninhibited motion. As we learned from our flirty floor workout, when you move sexy you feel sexy.

While stability is a core principal of Pilates, flexibility is too. Many Pilates exercises open up tight hips and legs, allowing them to move more freely and in greater ranges of motion. The freedom in your joints and muscles means you can experiment with all sorts of interesting positions in the bedroom. Just try this Pilates inner-thigh workout! It strengthens the legs while lengthening tight hamstrings and adductors.

Pilates will also make you stronger all over, which is always a boon for sexy time. And while getting stronger, because Pilates focuses on the mind-body connection, these workouts help you understand your body better. And more body awareness leads to things all Pilates instructors teach clients like better posture and good form when lifting, but it can also lead to a more satisfying sex life.

5 ways to maximise your sexual pleasure

When it comes to sexual pleasure, there are many misconceptions about how and why you should have it.

Many people believe that you need to achieve a particular outcome during intimacy, instead of being in the moment and having pleasure without the pressure of an orgasm.

Cheeba Africa, the company that is importing and stocking the Foria Intimacy range, together with Nurture Your Vagina, share tips on how to maximise your sexual pleasure:

Grant yourself permission for pleasure – “Pleasure is not limited to sex and pleasure should not make you feel guilty. It’s not a ‘guilty pleasure’; it’s pleasure and you shouldn’t feel ashamed for embracing it.

Women’s pleasure is not dependent on ‘sex’, nor is it in the hands of our sexual partner as opposed to our own.

These ideas result in a sense of guilt if we indulge in a little self-pleasure, whether that’s treating yourself to a spa day or masturbation. So my advice is to be gentle with yourself and grant yourself permission for pleasure.”

Explore the meaning of ‘sex’ – “What does ‘sex’ mean to you, better yet, what does ‘good sex’ mean to you? We need to acknowledge that sex is not just penis in vagina (PIV) intercourse.

Sex is inclusive of all that brings you pleasure. So when your partner says; ‘let’s have sex’ that might just be cunnilingus and that’s okay!”

Sexual self-care includes management of sexual concerns – “I beg you, please don’t push through pain! Sex should not be painful, unless that is your sexual preference, as in bondage.

If you have concerns or queries please chat to a sexual health practitioner who is passionate about sexual well-being and a willing advocate for your comprehensive care.

‘Have a glass of wine and relax’ or ‘it’s all in your head’ are NOT effective methods of management for dyspareunia (painful intercourse).

Tune in and listen to your body – “Our bodies have a way of communicating with us, making us aware of any areas that may need a little more attention.

Poor body image or other discomforts around sex may lead to dissociation when it comes to intimacy, making it difficult to be present and possibly impacting your ability to experience pleasure or reach orgasm.

Taking the time to connect to your body by exploring your anatomy, addressing body image or practicing breath work or other mindfulness techniques.”

Shift your focus from orgasm to pleasure - We tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to achieve a particular outcome during intimacy. This outcome may be subconsciously shaped by societal views, social media or porn.

The expectation to have a screaming, linen-clenching, back arching orgasm with PIV sex, in 5 minutes derives from a lack of exposure to empowering and realistic sex positive content.

When we don’t meet these expectations, we might fake an orgasm (reinforcing intimacy which does not serve you) or we put pressure on ourselves and may come to believe that there is something wrong with us.

This interplay of pressure and expectation might impact your ability to be present and experience pleasure.”